Please do u know my husband bought cake for his single mum side chick for her birthday and I saw all .
I saw the chats and he has never for ones bought me cake in our ten years of marriage , whatever I am asking for she is getting it.
And yet I did contribution almost 5m he wants me to support him with it in his business which is making me confused.
Rachael Joseph
Loving each other does not mean you will never disagree.
Marriage is not the joining of two minds.
You and your wife can love each other deeply and still disagree about money, parenting, family, sex, work, friendships, religion, where to live or how to handle everyday problems.
Disagreement does not automatically mean the marriage is failing.
The real problem is how you handle the disagreement.
Some couples turn every argument into a battle they must win.
They insult each other, bring up old mistakes, involve family and friends, give each other the silent treatment or threaten divorce whenever they do not get their way.
That is not conflict resolution. That is emotional warfare.
You do not have to agree with your wife to respect her. She does not have to agree with you to respect you.
Sometimes the goal of an argument should not be to prove who is right. It should be to understand each other and find a solution both people can live with.
A healthy marriage is not one where two people never disagree.
It is one where two people can disagree without becoming enemies.🤷♂️
As a man,
Do not say that because you're from a separated home, then you do not mind marrying a woman that is also from a separated home.
Both mothers are not going to be your wife, I agree.
But if you do not learn from your father's mistakes, what happened to your father may also happen to you.
I do not even expect your father to support you to marry from such a home.
Especially if her mother left her father to go be with another man, and has also left the man.
Meaning, she's a divorced single mother of different men.
While I agree that there will always be exceptions, that exception may not be you.
If you do not take your time to understand why her mother left her father, and the relationship they both have as mother and daughter, you may just be entering the wrong marriage.
No matter what we say, a daughter will almost always take after her mother.
Another exception is if she grew up with her father or is very close to him and shows him respect and honor.
Anything short of these, your eyes will see your ears.
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May God bless you single men to marry a wife that is so good and kind to you, despite her imperfections.
You'll not find any problems in seeing me praise my lovely wife.
You'll do more if you were in my shoes.
Because there many wives that are better than my wife.
And you can marry one.
Do not just judge your wife by how she treats your children.
But judge her by how she treats you and the children.
She does not need to have money.
That's not her primary responsibility.
It's your responsibility as a man to make that happen.
So that your good wife will prove to you that your money is not being wasted.
Men who are married to such women know what I am talking about.
Your own na to dey find virgin or how many preeqs she don fuck.
You cannot judge a woman's character by the number of dicks that she has fucked.
As long as she's not a prostitute.
Some women are so eager to become wives so that they don't keep wasting time in raising a family with you.
But you're deceitful or indecisive.
You go fuck am abi you no go fuck am?
If she unfortunately meets like 5 of you, that means 5 body counts or more.
Does it mean that because of that, she can no longer be a good wife?
Men are loud hypocrites.
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