I sat beside a married man at an event today
First thing he asked:
"Are you married?"
I said no.
He just smiled and said:
"Good… because I’m trying not to commit adultery."
Omo… my attention complete
Then he asked:
"Is it normal for a husband to always be the one to initiate intimacy?"
I reminded him I’m not married
But it looked like the man just needed someone to talk to.
He said they have 2 kids…
And in all their years together, he’s always the one making the first move.
Not like his wife refuses… according to him, 8 out of 10 times, she agrees.
But he said…
"Sometimes I want to feel wanted too."
Omo… that line hit me.
He said women at work, even around his neighbourhood, show interest…
But he has never cheated.
Now he’s tempted…
Not because he lacks intimacy…
But because he misses feeling desired.
What's the best advice for him?
What has worked for me trying to loose weight is to eat my last food by 6 pm.
Nothing beats it. But I do get hungry in the night mostly because am a night person, i work best at night.
I drink water. Cold water, i don't know if it's ok but it helps
@IyelolaIge I doubt there's a solution to this situation. A close friend is dealing with such situation now, she opened up to me last week. Did not know what to tell her, i just said pray about it.
I USED TO THINK RICH PEOPLE WERE JUST LUCKY.
Then I started watching how they spent their Sundays.
"Your Sunday evening tells me everything about who you will be financially in five years," my mentor said.
Here are 10 Sunday habits of people who are quietly building wealth:
Reading books isn’t about showing off intelligence.
It’s about building a mind that can think clearly, choose wisely, and grow quietly.
That’s what self-respect looks like.
I think women should start asking men to be clear from day one. If a man comes to say he likes you, ask him straight. Is this for marriage or just casual fun?
If he says marriage, then put it in writing. A simple agreement. State the intent to marry and the time frame for dating before marriage. Let it be clear. Let it be signed. Let it be recorded properly under the law.
Why? Because too many men waste women’s time. Years go by. Promises are made. Energy is spent. Youth is spent. Then the man walks away with no loss while the woman carries the damage.
If a man is serious, he should not fear clarity. Men fear documents only when they are unsure or dishonest. A clear man will be calm about it.
If he wants a casual relationship, that should also be stated clearly. How long. What it means. No fake hope. No marriage talk later. That way the woman can choose with open eyes.
This is not about force. It is about protection. It is about stopping stories of “he promised” with nothing to show for it.
Love without structure wastes lives. Clarity saves time. And time is something women do not get back.
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