i don’t know what you’ve been told, but healing requires a lot of sleep and naps. sometimes your body and mind are so exhausted from carrying everything you’ve been through that all you can do is rest. you don’t always need to be productive, figure everything out, or force yourself to feel better overnight. sometimes the most loving thing you can do for yourself is get comfortable, turn your phone off, close your eyes, and let yourself exist without demanding anything more.
remember that you and your partner didn’t come from the same home, with the same experiences, habits or way of communicating. you’re going to process things differently, show affection differently and react to conflict differently. that doesn’t automatically mean one person cares more than the other. sometimes loving each other means learning how the other person works instead of expecting them to respond exactly like you would. respect the differences, stay curious about each other, and keep trying to understand where the other person is coming from.