Just a friendly reminder. Train yourself not to become too emotionally attached to anyone because when they stop communicating or stop talking to you, you might not recover from it. Remember, people wake up with different feelings everyday. That’s why it’s important to stay grounded and not rely too much on anyone for your happiness. Protect your peace.
One of the hardest lessons in life is accepting that some answers will never come from the person who hurt you.
Sometimes healing starts when you stop waiting for them to explain what they already showed you.
and if love ever finds me again, i hope it's with someone who thinks about how their actions affect me,someone who considers my feelings before making choices and values my peace as much as their own because I'm not here to survive love again, I'm here to finally live it
I’m not available for people who pick and choose when they wanna be available for me. I used to accept inconsistent effort because I cared more about keeping the connection than paying attention to the pattern. Not anymore. If you only show up when it’s convenient for you, I’m gonna assume that’s where I stand. I don’t chase people, and I don’t compete for anybody’s time. Either it’s mutual or it’s nothing at all.
Y’all are terrified of initiating conversation after conflict . I’m not your mother . I’m not whatever ex that used to blow up on you . I’m an adult that wants to hear you , be heard , and heal what’s happened between us . Silence is not a resolution .
“Communication is key” but no one talks about how scary real communication is. It is not cute texts and long calls. It’s “here’s where you hurt me, here’s what I need, here’s what I’m afraid to say”. It’s swallowing pride, risking rejection, choosing honesty over comfort.
I can't wait to actually meet someone who's actually interested in me. The constant crave of wanting to talk, asking about my day, my feelings, sharing laughter & being heard is so rare nowadays. Nobody communicates anymore. Real is Rare.
I really dislike the concept of “we experience people differently” because what have I done for you to be horrible to me but kind to the next person?? 😭
Most times the strongest form of self-respect is leaving people alone!!! Stop forcing conversations, chasing closure, or trying to convince people to see your point of view. What wants you won’t need to be begged. Protect your peace and keep it moving. 🤍
The quickest way to lose me is to make me feel like I don’t matter. I don’t expect perfection from anybody, but I do pay attention to effort, consistency, and how people treat me over time. Once I start noticing that I’m always the one reaching out, always the one understanding, or always the one showing up, I take a step back. I don’t beg people to value me and I don’t compete for a place in anybody’s life. If somebody shows me where I stand, I believe it. And once I accept that, I move accordingly. Some things don’t need an argument, they just need distance.
This is a sign to leave our super-understanding era because sometimes people just take advantage of the kindness that we are giving. I'm so done with being okay with what they are doing and feeling sorry for myself afterward.
I don’t let nobody play with my character because I know exactly how I move. I’ve been the person checking on everybody else, looking out when I didn’t have to, and showing up for people without keeping score. That’s why I don’t waste time trying to convince anybody of who I am. The people that know me know my intentions were always genuine. If somebody chooses to forget everything I did for them or switch the story to make themselves feel better, that’s on them. I know what type of heart I got, and that’s something nobody can take from me.
one of the main reasons i’m so gentle with myself is cause i believe i’ve already experienced enough hardship in my life. i’ve already been mishandled and undervalued by others and myself at times. so i deserve more patience, forgiveness, and consideration at this point.
I really owe myself an apology. For staying in places where I felt I wasn't wanted, but chose to hold on anyway. For trying to fix bonds that were already dead. For putting people first who would never have done the same for me. I knew better, but I kept giving chances. I kept showing up for folks who didn't appreciate me. So now I'm holding myself accountable, because I should.