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Yesterday at the bar a pretty cisgirl came up to me and asked if I remembered her because she used to work at the bar. She was being a little touchy and flirty. She told me to sit with her but I spilled my spaghetti, got scared, and left. I get scared of reading the room wrong :(
@Sleepyy_bun@noemiconcarne Plus, I'm just doing what you're doing as well. Criticizing and asking the why behind it.
I'm not under the assumption that you want everyone to be poly. Even if those first few replies read like it.
@Sleepyy_bun@noemiconcarne I have searched up the history of the terms? Hence why I brought up studying sociology. My findings are just as I described lol.
@Sleepyy_bun@noemiconcarne Again, I'm not judging polyamory as a whole. I don't know why you're under the assumption that I'm doing that. I'm criticizing the way many trans women that practice polyamory without the emotional maturity needed for one relationship, let alone many.
@Sleepyy_bun@noemiconcarne Well yeah, duh. I'm not judging the system as a whole, I'm judging the bad actors that use it to justify their abuse. I've seen this unhealthy pattern of abuse spring up more and more in recent years. Too many people are hoping onto polyamory with little to no emotional maturity.
@Sleepyy_bun@noemiconcarne I study sociology, Im sorry to tell you but it is. That doesn't inherently make it bad of course but polyamory is based on historical patriarchal power structures. Replacing those power structures with women doesn't make it NOT based on it. It also doesn't make it inherently evil
@noemiconcarne@Sleepyy_bun I'm not pushing anything onto anyone. My thoughts on polyamory aren't what they were a month or two ago. We're both being pretty cordial, not much to agree to disagree.
@Sleepyy_bun@noemiconcarne Not saying it can't be done well, just that too many people aren't prepared for one relationship let alone many. They think polyamory is just FWBs with extra steps, it's really toxic and narcissistic. A romantic relationship, polyamorous or not, is a big step as partners.
@Sleepyy_bun@noemiconcarne Thats fine. I do the same thing with polyamory and criticize it heavily, especially since the why behind that is usually "I like sex."
For example, I really dont enjoy how some trans women practice polyamory and use it to abuse their partners and gaslight them into polyamory.
@Sleepyy_bun@noemiconcarne Well to be fair polyamory is based on patriarchal power structures that deem womens body as a form of currency.
And no, I can't, my brain quite literally doesn't function that way. If I'm loving two people then I can't fully invest in both of them. It's unfair for them. And me.
Big fat brown trans girl belly gets played with and slapped around while playing PVZ Fusion. Are you sick fucks actually into this shit???
#pridemonth#t4t
@Sleepyy_bun@noemiconcarne My brain? I dont know what to tell you, dude. When I fall for someone I fall for the individual, not some vague idea of a partner. I stay devoted to one partner because I love hard, this is lowkey why I stay a bachelorette. I love caring and fucking an oomf, but its not romance.
@noemiconcarne@Sleepyy_bun I don't personally see it as entrapment. Maybe it's because I'm older but at this point hookups and all that really dont do much for me besides getting my dick wet, in the long term they just make me feel empty and devoid of meaning. I'm at my best when I can devote myself to one