@thefemalegoon2 I don't think the right solution was to just act like everything is fine. But I do think someone who knows you both should be running point mediating this, I think what she wants is to feel like she has a life outside of you and I don't think that's something *you* can fix
@thefemalegoon2 I think if you didn't care about her you wouldn't be agonizing over everything like this, but also like, you had a relationship based around guilt and obligation, that's not good for either of you. I think if nothing changed it might have gotten worse