14. Almost every woman can get there
About 10% of women never orgasm under any circumstance. But a sex therapist with decades of experience says every woman who came to her unable to orgasm left able to, through technique or by seeing a sexual medicine doctor.
Lost desire, never orgasmed, or lost the ability? There are solutions. Don't wait, because these problems grow.
THE ORGASM GAP: WHAT EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW
Most men are trying hard in bed and still missing the one thing that actually works for her.
1. Penetration alone rarely does it
13. Self-pleasure is healthy
Whether it's daily or weekly, it's healthy for women and men. It only becomes a problem when it interferes with life, like missing work or avoiding relationships.
Women who pleasure themselves have better partner sex. Old warnings about losing blood or "boiling sperm" with hot water are myths.
7. Check if the condom held up
Was he wearing one? If it's still intact, shower and go to sleep.
If it broke, it's damage control. Do everything above: the tests, checking her fertile window, and deciding whether an emergency pill still works. Some newer pills claim to work even after ovulation, but be very sceptical. Most of the time they don't.
6. Clean any toys
Wash and disinfect them, especially if they're shared. Use 70% alcohol, povidone-iodine from any pharmacy, or bleach.
Even the normal bacteria from one body causes infections in another.