I used to wonder why Allah describes Himself as “closer to you than your jugular vein.”
Not your heart.
Not your soul.
Not your mind.
The jugular vein.
“And We are closer to him than his jugular vein.” (50:16)
I looked into it. The answer stopped me completely.
Marriage is not your mission. Allah is.
I say that because some of us quietly believe a spouse will end our loneliness. No. Allah is the One who ends loneliness.
Have you not met/heard of married people who feel deeply alone? A ring doesn’t cure emptiness. A wedding doesn’t heal the heart.
Nothing fills that void except the One who created it.
A spouse can be a comfort. A spouse can be mercy. But only if Allah places barakah in it.
If you expect a human to meet needs, only Allah can fulfil,
you are setting yourself up for disappointment.
People are limited, but Allah is not. Let your mission be closeness to Him.
If marriage comes, it will be a gift… not a god.
In the Qur’an, there is only one deeply detailed story of a marriage (nikah)
And it’s not what most people would expect… do you know whose marriage Allah chose to preserve forever?
Today is the Day of Arafah.
If you’re Gen Z, ambitious, having big goals, wanting success in life… but at the same time constantly anxious about the future, read this.
Three du’as to hold on to when life feels heavy:
1. Du’a for Ease
رَبِّ إِنِّي لِمَا أَنزَلْتَ إِلَيَّ مِنْ خَيْرٍ فَقِيرٌ
Rabbi inni lima anzalta ilayya min khayrin faqeer
My Lord, I am truly in need of whatever good You send down to me.
2. Du’a for Patience
رَبَّنَا أَفْرِغْ عَلَيْنَا صَبْرًا
Rabbana afrigh ‘alayna sabran
Our Lord, pour upon us patience.
3. Du’a for a Peaceful Heart
الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا وَتَطْمَئِنُّ قُلُوبُهُم بِذِكْرِ اللَّهِ
Alladhina amanu wa tatma’innu qulubuhum bi dhikrillah
Surely, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find peace.
Benefits of Nikah 🤍
• It protects the heart from haram
• It brings peace, love, and mercy
• It completes half of one’s deen
• It is a sunnah of the Prophets
• It teaches patience, responsibility, and sacrifice
• It gives halal companionship through life
• It can become a means of reward when done sincerely for Allah
“And among His signs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves so that you may find tranquility in them…” — Qur’an 30:21
There is an ayah in the Qur’an where Allah promises us that if we thank Him then He will surely grant us more. And subhanallah, it’s not just to do with wealth. It’s to do with everything.
If Allah has guided you, thank Him. He will keep you steadfast. If He teaches you something new regarding the deen, thank Him and He will increase you in knowledge.
If happiness surrounds you, then thank Him. He will give you even more things to be happy about.
Just a few moments of pondering over the bounties of Allah can increase our Imaan.
DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A WIFE AND A RESPONSIBLE WIFE
• A wife expects love – a responsible wife builds it every day through small acts of care
• A wife argues to win – a responsible wife discusses to solve
• A wife focuses on romance – a responsible wife focuses on partnership
• A wife blames when things go wrong – a responsible wife helps fix what went wrong
• A wife wants attention – a responsible wife earns respect through her actions
• A wife gives love when she feels loved – a responsible wife gives love to keep it alive
• A wife dreams of a perfect man – a responsible wife helps her man grow into one
• A wife talks about problems – a responsible wife works on solutions
• A wife keeps score in arguments – a responsible wife values peace over pride
• A wife waits to be appreciated – a responsible wife finds pride in doing what's right
One waits. One builds.
Choose wisely. Marry responsibly.