Sometimes I accidentally accept the bare minimum trying to be considerate of what others are going through and that’s a habit I need to let go of expeditiously.
i saw a girl on tiktok who said “accountability is so important to me. nobody’s perfect, but don’t try to flip the script and make my reaction the issue when your actions lit the match” felt this to the core.
- don't chase anyone.
- don't beg someone to stay.
- know your worth.
- save space for people who matter.
- accept what cannot be changed.
- leave what isn't for you.
- love yourself.
- move on when necessary
relationships are so beautiful when you and your partner are actually good friends. you show up together, share inside jokes, talk openly, have fun, and totally vibe like besties. they shouldn’t replace your actual friends but it’s so amazing when the dynamic isn't just romantic.
the more i learn about avoidant attached people the more i feel bad for them. imagine having so much to say to someone you love, yet no way to say it because vulnerability and intimacy don’t feel safe.
can y'all please normalize letting people be until they feel like being bothered again! yes i'm on social media, yes i see your calls and texts! i just don't feel like talking/texting…I will respond when my human interaction radar is reset. until then.…LET ME BE!
My cut off game is different. I don’t post subliminals. I don’t watch your story. I don’t unfollow or block either… your existence just becomes what it was before…. nothing.