If someone is trying to convince you that you must forgive them in order for you to heal are looking for absolution so they can go on thinking they are a good person.
You're not a church, you don't need to forgive anyone if you don't want to, and you can heal and grow just fine.
Having not gotten covid yet feels like I've been hiding in the back of a 2+ year long middle school dodgeball game and the front lines have been THINNED