We really need to stop lying to trans people.
You're not a woman just bc of your dysphoria. You're not a woman just because you like feminine things. You're not a woman just because you "feel" like a woman. You're not a woman just bc you're on hormones or get plastic surgery.
It's okay to be an effeminate man. You should not be discriminated against or face violence for that.
But gaslighting people and forcing people to play along with lies that you're a woman is insulting to actual women.
Women are biologically female. Men are biologically male. And no amount of mental gymnastics about gender stereotypes, strawmen about intersex-conditions, or shouting about "the evil terfs" will change that.