being able to imagine having space for multiple relationships is particularly hard for women bc we are socialized to be highly-enmeshed with men. one of the best things about divesting from monogamy for women is reconsidering how we show up in relationships
My should be popular opinion is that avoiding ‘fights’ with your friends denies them the chance to fully be your friend. When you speak up about the ways people hurt you, you give them a chance to fix it. It can go either way, but if you stay quiet, the only result is resentment.