baby i'm passed my hood n!ggas stage, i like a grown ass MAN!!! Buy me flowers 🌺 surprise me to my favorite restaurant, take me on picnic dates help me reach my goals ect. A n!gga that's in the streets more than he with me is a fucking turn off!!! 🤷🏽♀️
Staying in a relationship just because you love somebody is not worth it. Love, by itself, is not a magic solution that can fix everything, and it is not enough to sustain a partnership where your needs are overlooked or ignored. A relationship without respect is empty; respect is the foundation that tells you your feelings, your thoughts, and your boundaries matter. Without it, love can feel like a cage rather than a comfort.
You need reassurance, the kind that reminds you you are seen, heard, and appreciated—not just occasionally, but consistently. You need to feel safe, emotionally and mentally, knowing that your partner truly values you and your presence in their life. You need happiness, a genuine sense of joy and peace when you are with them, not constant anxiety, doubt, or the feeling that you’re always walking on eggshells.
You need to wake up every day knowing, deep in your heart, that you are their favorite person—that you are wanted, desired, and cherished for exactly who you are. Anything less is a compromise of your worth. Staying in a relationship where these things are absent is not loyalty, it’s self-denial. It’s telling yourself that enduring discomfort or pain is enough simply because you “love” them.
Learn to love yourself instead. Learn to honor your own needs, your own happiness, and your own peace of mind. Self-love is not selfish—it is the compass that guides you to the kind of relationship that doesn’t just survive, but thrives. Love should never be a reason to stay where you’re not respected, not valued, and not truly celebrated. True love begins with yourself, and only then can you recognize a love that is deserving of you.
How fast I can detach. Anything I love extremely deeply I’m prepared to lose. It can break my heart but I have learned how to keep going. It can seem cold, but if it takes me off my pivot..I’ll cut my finger off to save my hand. I cant lose myself again, for anything. I’ll heal.