As a male vtuber. Why would I get on here, fanservice myself on the internet, and contribute to the growing parasocial pandemic by giving lonely people disingenuous "boyfriend" treatment?
On top of that, I've been in a healthy, stable relationship for the last 13 years. The only person who gets that kind of treatment is her.
So, forgive me if my whole thing as a male vtuber is getting on stream and hanging with my community and playing games because it is what I enjoy.
Imagine a girl who doesn't give easy access to just anyone. She barely talks to boys, keeps her circle small, and her life even smaller.She's quiet, private, and a little hard to reach unless you truly know her. So if she lets you in, if she opens up to you even a little. Understand that you were never just anyone to her.
You were someone she trusted enough to lower the walls she built so carefully.
to the woman reading this... I hope the next man you love is so kind, so patient, and so consistent that your body finally relaxes. no guesswork. no anxiety. no mixed signals. no chaos disguised as passion. just peace. just security. just a love that emerges, stays firm, and feels calm instead of confusing. I wish for a love that doesn't trigger survival mode, but rather teaches you what true security feels like.
Imagine a girl who doesn't give easy access to just anyone. She barely talks to boys, keeps her circle small, and her life even smaller.She's quiet, private, and a little hard to reach unless you truly know her .So if she lets you in, if she opens up to you even a little...understand that you were never just anyone to her. You were someone she trusted enough to lower the walls she built so carefully.
Her distance isnโt attitude, itโs protection. Sheโs learned to keep things to herself and stay within her own space. Thatโs why if she ever lets you get close, even a little, it means you made her feel something rareโฆ comfort in a world where she usually stays guarded.
Unpopular opinion:
A lot of people do not actually want a healthy relationship. They want someone who tolerate their unhealthy habits without holding them accountable..Because a healthy relationship requires communication, emotional regulation, honesty, reassurance, consistency, self awareness , and the ability to apologise without ego.
And a lot of people are not ready for that level of emotional responsibility yet.
I'm living proof that trauma doesn't have to harden you or turn you into someone evil.
I've been hurt in ways that I don't always talk about. I've carried pain that I never asked for, and also survived things that changed me FOREVER !. However, I still lead with love. I still show up with kindness and a smile. I still believe in good people, soft moments and second chances. Healing didn't make me perfect but it reminded me that I get to decide who I become & I refuse to let what broke me turn me into someone that I'm not ๐ฏ