Michal Lile

Creative Leader in Education and Visual Art (he/they)

[Michal Lile @LileHQ]

I come here very seldom now and believe all my followers do the same

[Michal Lile @LileHQ]

Just wondering if anyone is here anymore

[Michal Lile @LileHQ]

Just thinking the same thing earlier today, but thought it as

I’d rather die living than live dying because to live dying is not to truly live at all

[Alan Watts @AlanWattsDaily]

The paradox of civilization is that the more one is anxious to survive, the less survival is worth the trouble.

[Michal Lile @LileHQ]

Truth that allowed me to surround myself with only the people who are right for me. I found no sense in wasting precious breathe forcing DNA based relationships

[Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @DrDoyleSays]

Because someone happens to share your name or DNA doesn't mean they automatically "love" you, add value to your life, or are worth the risk or consequences of maintaining a relationship with them.

[Michal Lile @LileHQ]

Cultivating this idea has been central to my centered happiness

[Alan Watts @AlanWattsDaily]

It’s a little bit funny, isn’t it, that anything exists at all? Has that ever struck you? I mean, it’d be so much easier for there not to have been anything, because being is a bit of an effort.

[Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt]

Love doesn’t put you in survival mode. It will require sacrifice and can feel scary because of the vulnerability required to receive an offer it back. But, love is not something you’re supposed to heal from. If someone keeps hurting you in the way they love you, it isn’t love.

[Michal Lile @LileHQ]

Truth

[The Wily Survivor @WilySurvivor]

Why do children raised by abusive parents often show loyalty or forgiveness? Trauma bonding is a big factor. When abuse is sprinkled with moments of care, it creates a powerful emotional attachment. It’s a survival mechanism shaped by years of manipulation.

[Michal Lile @LileHQ]

This turned out to be one of the best, most life and love affirming decisions I’ve ever made. Happy to share my experience with anyone who might benefit

[Michal Lile @LileHQ]

This was true for me, except after my realization I actually stopped loving them in the way I had because it felt foolish, and the leaving became much easier.

[Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt]

When you begin to heal, you’ll let go of people you love deeply, because they see your love as an invitation to keep hurting you. The focus becomes offering them more love to get less hurt, until you realize there isn’t enough love to change people like that.

[Michal Lile @LileHQ]

I was also comfortable with the kind of pain I endured and needed time to recognize the risk of the unknown was more promising than staying and allowing the pain to continue indefinitely

[Michal Lile @LileHQ]

Truth

[Alan Watts @AlanWattsDaily]

Foresight is bought at the price of anxiety, and, when overused, it destroys all its own advantages.

[Michal Lile @LileHQ]

Sadly practice makes perfect here too, but I’ve also seen it lead to blindspots for those who fail to develop the ability to recognize who is actually trustworthy

[Trey @treydayway]

Nobody naturally reads body language and energy like a person who was raised in trauma

[Michal Lile @LileHQ]

Truth

[Alan Watts @AlanWattsDaily]

Life is an organization that will not work under dominance. It will only work by cooperation.

[Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt]

To understand why childhood trauma is so detrimental, is to consider what it would be like to be dependent on someone who is hurting you. A child, having to navigate an unsafe person while also needing them for everyday life. If you relate, I’m sending you compassion, & peace.

[Michal Lile @LileHQ]

@jconline I’m not sure embarrassing is the right word. I still left the stadium a Boilermaker!

[Michal Lile @LileHQ]

@jconline The crowd was not impressed. I’m sure Rohrman lost more than the 10k they threw at this problem.

[Michal Lile @LileHQ]

Until you realize their denial tells you about them, not about you. Then it’s easy to move away and on

[Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt]

If you’re the first one in a toxic family who chooses to heal, navigating their denial will be one of the hardest parts.

[Michal Lile @LileHQ]

Spot on

[Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt]

How to know whether to heal with or walk away from a parent:

A healthy parent is going to reflect on your hurt and begin their own healing journey.

An unhealthy parent is going to create chaos because they’re no longer the main character in this chapter of your life.

[Michal Lile @LileHQ]

Lived truth. I’d like to believe I’m doing this less now but probably only minimally. If you identity, please be patient with yourself. If you meet one, please understand it comes from somewhere

[Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt]

Why do people over-explain?

1). They've had their reality denied & are trying to be understood.

2). They got hurt in harsh ways & think it was because they didn't explain themselves better.

3). They were/are often ignored.

Sending peace as you rest in your explanations.