There's an expression something like "if there's a nazi at the table and five other people sitting there who know he's a nazi making polite dinner conversation with him, then there's six nazis at the table." One might quibble with details like 'are they all REALLY nazis' but the
People say this cuz they "don't want to be a bother", but they don't realize that when you Hand Over All the Decision Making to Somebody Else you're Increasing the Work They have to do