Lily Safehaven

I managed to escape an abusive relationship. The only way out was to flee, leaving the abuser inside My Home. I’m seeking funds to evict him from my property.

[Lily Safehaven @LilySafehaven]

Got my Just Giving page ready. Now I need some supporters🙏
I’m raising funds to help with legal fees needed to evict ex abuser from my own home he refuses to leave. https://t.co/Q5aQavIr0l #PostSeparationAbuse #CourtAbuse #DomesticAbuse #JustGiving

[Lily Safehaven @LilySafehaven]

#postseparationabuse #afternarc #dvsurvivor

[Lily Safehaven @LilySafehaven]

@OfficialMelB @StylistMagazine Thank you for continuing your work raising awareness on this. Having experienced decades of coercion as well as violence I can confirm this can happen to anyone not only “weak” women. Abusers often go after the strong, successful, independent woman

[Lily Safehaven @LilySafehaven]

Update: Despite a court order the abuser still hasn’t moved out of my home. I’m still paying to rent a safe house, my legal bills are extortionate. I’m still being abused post separation #postseparationabuse #courtabuse #financialabuse https://t.co/fJI88mScrT

[Prof Jane Monckton Smith OBE @JMoncktonSmith]

A typical stalker. Nothing out of the ordinary here. A high risk stalker.

[AskAubry 🦋 🐆🦝 @ask_aubry]

Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them.

Margaret Atwood

He thought he could stalk her straight.

[Lily Safehaven @LilySafehaven]

@DrEmmaKatz Yes, he’s saying I’m controlling as I want him out of MY house. The home I own, I have paid all the bills for the house that is in my name. He was extremely coercive & controlling now gone DARVO. I’m evicting him as a trespasser. https://t.co/Q5aQavIr0l

[Lily Safehaven @LilySafehaven]

@JMoncktonSmith Great book, contains such insights from a survivors perspective. It can only help others when translated into other languages. Congratulations Jane 👏

[Lily Safehaven @LilySafehaven]

@WMerciaPolice so much pain dealt out by one man for so long.Times have changed,still many attitudes remain the same. Grateful for all the services that finally bought some justice, though I fear the only ones to really understand are those who experienced similar controlling relationships

[Lily Safehaven @LilySafehaven]

@vicderbyshire I did tag you at the start of my 2.5year journey to evict my ex abuser from my house after I fled from years of physical, emotional and financial abuse. It’s incredibly expensive and exhausting as he’s obstructing & lying at every turn https://t.co/Q5aQavIr0l

[Lily Safehaven @LilySafehaven]

@VanessaBrownCan Oh well done Vanessa, so pleased for you. You must be exhausted. I hope the county court don’t drag their feet. Thinking of you, congratulations ❤️x

[Lily Safehaven @LilySafehaven]

@SuptLeeBerryWYP @JMoncktonSmith @WestYorksPolice @WYPJohnRobins @MayorOfWY @DeputyMayorPCWY @Maggie_Blyth @PoliceChiefs Thank you for being a voice for those who can not or dare not speak out against their abusers and the violence & control they suffer at their hands. Please keep up the good work educating those who have the power to change our culture.

[Lily Safehaven @LilySafehaven]

Is there really not one good lawyer out there who can help this woman? #PostSeparationAbuse #CourtAbuse

[Lily Safehaven @LilySafehaven]

@VanessaBrownCan So sorry Vanessa 😞 I’m experiencing similar and it never seems to end. You will get through this x I’ll retweet. I hope a good lawyer sees this and you start to get the help you need. Sending you love and light for tomorrow x

[Lily Safehaven @LilySafehaven]

@amcampbell84 @YRUblack Agree, how can it not affect a child to see someone they love being abused even if it is by someone else they love? In fact it probably causes more damage than if the perpetrator causing the abuse were unknown to the child?

[Lily Safehaven @LilySafehaven]

@VanessaBrownCan Sorry your going through this Vanessa. I’m also going through the very long dragged out legal process with an abuser and the system isn’t geared up for it. Hope someone steps up for you x

[Lily Safehaven @LilySafehaven]

@YRUblack @EllensamHarvey @davidgmandel I agree, it’s so difficult to get your head around how anyone could behave in such a malicious hurtful way. It’s taken me several years to unravel the lies and control I suffered. I don’t know how we get professionals to understand something so inhuman.

[Lily Safehaven @LilySafehaven]

@DrEmmaKatz I would consider myself pretty well balanced out side of the abuse that took place over 30 years. Yet I couldn’t see a way out until I left with only my gym bag and car. 5 years later still fighting to get him out of the home I paid for in my name. https://t.co/Q5aQavIr0l

[Lily Safehaven @LilySafehaven]

@SEAresource @HSBC_UK I took a photo of the billboard today in readiness to give to my lawyer (a man) who seems to believe #financialabuse can only happen by a man controlling the money he gives. I was a successful woman in my own right yet my abuser managed to get control. https://t.co/Q5aQavIr0l

[Lily Safehaven @LilySafehaven]

@CCChatMagazine Total Love bombing followed by don’t wear make up/ skirt etc or go out with friends. Told I ignored him when we were out if had conversation with anyone else. It was a gradual takeover of my whole life. I was 17 it took me 30 years to get away https://t.co/Q5aQavIr0l

[Lily Safehaven @LilySafehaven]

Update: The ex #abuser is still in my house, the eviction is moving forward, Being a #narcissist he opposes everything believing he’s entitled to control me and my property. Still raising funds for my legal fees, see update 👇 https://t.co/XYOZGQqzxA