@hayin_uAvu I relate to this so much. Sometimes I when I finally achieve that thing I have been working hard for , I’m so so over it. genuinely don’t even have the strength and will to celebrate and just like that.. on to the next thing .🥲
Maturity is realising men are intentional. Silence, distance & inconsistencies are choices. Just like repetition, presence, reliability. These are the signatures of someone who actually wants you. Anything less is a story we tell ourselves so we don’t feel the grief letting go.
As someone who works in feminist movement building, the “what about the boys” question is most common. This thinking about boys being systematically left behind is gaining traction in South Africa but it’s not grounded in evidence.