The whole “how your partner is with their family” conversation is disingenuous. We are talking about QUEERS. Not everyone is blessed to have family that didn’t disown them. Outside of their sexuality/identity, not everyone is blessed to have folks that didn’t abuse tf outta them.
Yes fems do have unrealistic expectations when it comes to their masculine partners, Yes yall do treat them like men sometimes that’s the reality for some studs/dyke. Yall want providers, but what are yall providing? Most of the time it’s nothing. Yall expect a lot for a lil.
the obsession with courtship... i’m not one to invalidate a lesbian’s sexuality but is there never a time you will open a door for ur partner? take the trash out sometimes? pay for her meal? why wouldn’t you wanna do those things for your PARTNER?