I think parents put way too much pressure on kids at very young ages when it comes to sports. Either as a way of reliving their own youth, making up for what they think they missed out on as a kid, or thinking their kid will get some scholarship after years of this stuff.
About ten years ago a soccer star in my local area who was very talented, great student, and was only 13, committed suicide in her backyard. I am convinced the pressure of the traveling team she was on was connected to her death.
Kids need to be kids.
When you finally understand that someone’s behavior reflects their internal struggles more than anything to do with you, you begin to learn grace, and naturally, detachment too.
Addiction ruins lives—but it's not just drugs and alcohol.
No one talks about this harmful silent killer:
People-pleasing.
It’s a trauma response disguised as personality.
Here’s how it rewires your brain—and how to stop it: 🧵
my therapist once told me that “someone who's emotionally unavailable can often make someone who's emotionally available feel like their basic needs are too much” i'll honestly never forget that...
25 years ago today, reality TV would forever be changed as we watched 16 Americans begin the adventure of a lifetime.
"In the end, only 1 will remain and will leave the island with $1 million in cash as their reward. 39 days, 16 people, one Survivor."
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1. "Children need to be loved as they are, and for who they are. When that happens, they can accept themselves as fundamentally good people, even when they screw up or fall short. And with this basic need met, they’re also freer to accept (and help) other people. Unconditional love, in short, is what children require in order to flourish."
2. "When children receive affection with strings attached, they tend to accept themselves only with strings attached."
3. "As a result of praise, children become less able or willing to take pride in their own accomplishments—or to decide what is an accomplishment. In extreme cases, they can turn into “praise junkies” who, even as adults, continue to rely on other people for validation, feeling thrilled or crestfallen depending on whether a spouse, a supervisor, or someone else in whom they have vested power tells them they’ve done a good job."
"Don't wear feathers in your hair at Tribal. Don't tell your stories. People don't believe your stories. They mock you. There's no reason to tell them. And do your Tai Chi in private where nobody can see you."
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