I want to show you guys exactly the difference between renting and own. For the past 2 years I lived at this place in Victory Park rent was R12k. My unit was on sale for R1 400 000.
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If you hear anything about me that’s isn’t about me loving my baby girl, school, career, family or generally enjoying life, it’s a lie!
Angizwani neNonsense!
i think I lost my spark. I talk less, I keep to myself, I've mastered distance. I'm not angry, I'm not bitter. I just don't have the energy to show up like I used to. Somewhere along the way, I slipped into this I don't care phase.
Please carry your struggles with a touch of dignity. Venting doesn't always help. People treat you differently when they know too much information about you.
breakups hurt but you know what really fucking hurts? trying to “make it work” with someone who has proven to you time and time again that they do not give a fuck about your feelings. that hurts.
No one talks enough about how exhausting it is for a woman to continuously give grace to a man. Too often, that grace comes at the expense of her own needs, her boundaries, and her peace. What starts as love slowly turns into self abandonment.
My childhood trauma left me with a deep fear of being in places where I’m not wanted. Nothing makes me shrink faster than the sense that my presence might be unwanted or burdensome.
It’s also why I am unable to beg or plead; I need to feel wanted, not endured.
/tolerated.
I'm usually the person that tries to fix bonds and friendships but lately I’ve been letting people stand on how they feel. We ain't never gotta talk again. That's perfectly fine by me.
I wanna marry into a funcional family... when they have cookouts, game nights, holiday dinners and bday parties...I wanna be able to go get breakfast with my mother in law & go shopping with their siblings. I don't want it to be just "US" I want a family that's oriented.
I stayed with a man who was half ready. I hoped. I waited. I extended grace. I tried to meet him where he was instead of honoring where I was. Over time, his lack of readiness pulled me out of my character. I became reactive. I became hardened. I started responding in ways that were not aligned with who I am. That is what misalignment does. It erodes you.