I get the "society that tells a poor man that he does not deserve to be in a relationship, cannot tell a rich man how many relationship he can be in" and "go for women you can afford."
The problem is with leading people on. If you want to marry one person and sleep around, that is your business. But let the others know that they are just hors d oeuvres. Denying your relationship/marriage because of sex is problematic. The other people are looking forward to commitment.
How are you in a relationship with multiple people and each of them thinks they are the only one? Men and women do this nonsense and forget the other people are human beings, not numbers. They are getting hurt and this trauma causes a ripple effect that destroyed this generation.
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As a generation, we need to stop worshipping money and shaming poor people. This idea of mocking and shaming poor people away from love, is not healthy. Everybody deserves love. Love cannot be monetized.
We also need to encourage faithfulness because a healthy society begins from a healthy family system. Too many people are damaged from hurt snd trauma. On one hand, we hate cheating and on the other hand, we encourage people to do it. Trust issues just yapa and innocent people are getting burnt.
Bitch, youāre Black *and* Nigerian. Your president is a functional vegetable who will likely rule you for another four years. You have insurgents threatening your existence in your own backyard and you canāt do fuck all about it. You wake up every day knowing that one day you may have to pay a ransom praying that your body or that of someone you love is at least recovered in time for a proper funeral. You could be dispossessed of everything you own in one sweep. Your life expectancy is shit and there is no lifeline. You are one arrest away from becoming another forgotten sheep in a broken system, one medical emergency away from becoming a dead fly. Your offspring were already in danger before ever being born.
So wherever womenās rights are being taken away, you are still doomed. Doomed as a Nigerian. Doomed as a Black man. Because wherever you go, your rights are next. You too are standing on rights that were fought for, given legal protection, and can be taken away. And any machinery of oppression that comes for womenās rights will come for yours too. You will have no freedom and no dignity.
You are still under the feet and mercy of the white man, still doomed in every universe. Still a lame horse waiting to be put down. Worry about your fate and weāll worry about ours.
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The third sibling is the Adamawa Region of Cameroon. Before colonial borders divided the area, the historic Adamawa Emirate extended across what is now northeastern Nigeria and northern Cameroon. Taraba was also part of the old Gongola State before it was split to create present-day Adamawa and Taraba in 1991. So, historically and geographically, Adamawa has one sibling in Nigeria and another across the border.Check the circled areas in the maps below to understand better āŗļø
I am a Northern girl. But I am not the Northern girl you imagined.
When people hear āNorthern Nigeria,ā many immediately picture a Muslim Hausa woman.
That woman exists.
But so do I.
I am a Northern girl. I am Christian. I am not Hausa. I am Laka/Godogodo.
And sometimes explaining that feels like I am introducing myself three times before people finally understand where I come from.
The problem is that Northern Nigeria has been reduced to one religion, one language, one culture and one kind of woman.
But the North is not one people.
There are Christians. Traditionalists. Muslims. Indigenous ethnic groups. Minority languages. Women who wear hijab and women who donāt. Women who grew up in churches. Women who grew up in mosques. Women whose grandparents spoke languages most Nigerians have never even heard of.
We exist.
And I think one reason many people donāt know we exist is because we havenāt told our stories loudly enough.
So yes, I am a Northern girl.
Just not the version of Northern Nigeria you were taught to imagine.
ImANorthernGirl
Since we are on Shein now, these are the best stores for shoes, clothes, bags, jewelry, etc on Shein! Better than the stores youāll find on your SHEIN homepage! Save this and thank me later šāāļø
For the ladies, here is how to shop for quality hairs on Temu.
I havenāt shopped on SHEIN so you can only try this when it comes to Temu.
I have gotten bad hairs, so trust me.
Will hold you hands so you donāt make mistakes
P.S : do not buy the wig highlighted below, remove if youāve added it to your cart.
Thatās why they end up with shiny, tangled wigs that look nothing like the pictures.
1. Bone Straight Wigs
Instead search:
⢠100% Human Hair
⢠Virgin Human Hair
⢠HD Lace
⢠13x4 Lace Front
⢠13x6 Lace Front
⢠Pre-plucked Hairline
⢠Single Donor Hair (if available)
⢠Brazilian Straight
⢠Vietnamese Hair (usually silkier and thicker)
⢠Burmese Hair (fuller texture)
If it doesnāt clearly state 100% human hair, assume itās blended or synthetic.
2. Curly Wigs
Search:
⢠Deep Wave
⢠Water Wave
⢠Jerry Curl
⢠Kinky Curly
⢠Afro Kinky Curly
⢠Loose Deep Wave
Look for customer videos.
Curly hair can look amazing in product photos but completely different after washing.
3. Bob Wigs
Search:
⢠Blunt Cut Bob
⢠HD Lace Bob
⢠Glueless Bob Wig
⢠180 Density
⢠200 Density
A high-density bob usually looks fuller and lasts longer.
4. Closure Wigs
Search:
⢠5x5 HD Closure
⢠6x6 HD Closure
⢠Glueless Closure Wig
These are beginner-friendly and easier to maintain than frontal wigs.
5. Frontal Wigs
Search:
⢠13x4 Frontal
⢠13x6 Frontal
⢠HD Lace
⢠Transparent Lace
⢠Bleached Knots
⢠Pre-plucked
More lace generally means more styling options.
6. Glueless Wigs
Search:
⢠Adjustable Elastic Band
⢠Wear and Go Wig
⢠Beginner Friendly
Perfect if you donāt want glue every morning.
7. Density
Search:
⢠150% Density (natural everyday look)
⢠180% Density (most popular)
⢠200ā250% Density (very full)
Higher density doesnāt always mean better.
Choose based on the look you want.
8. Lace
Search:
⢠HD Lace
⢠Swiss Lace
⢠Transparent Lace
Good lace melts into the skin better and looks more natural.
How I shop now:
⢠I read the hair material before I even look at the photos.
⢠If it doesnāt clearly say 100% human hair, I keep scrolling.
⢠I watch customer videos before I trust seller pictures.
⢠Videos donāt hide bad density or poor lace.
I read the lowest-rated reviews first.
Thatās where people tell you if the wig sheds, tangles, or smells.
⢠I compare density, not just length.
A 30-inch wig with 150% density can look thinner than a 24-inch wig with 180% density.
⢠If the seller wonāt tell you the lace type, density, or hair source, thatās a red flag.
Customer photos > product photos.
A good wig isnāt just about the length.
Itās about the hair quality, density, lace, construction, and honest reviews.
Thank youu.
Once you learn how to shop directly from China, E.g Temù or shien your wardrobe changes completely. Call me cheap I don't care I ain't rich, I don't do fraud.š
It's knowing what to search for.
Here's my style after making plenty of mistakes.
1. T-shirts:
Skip 100% polyester unless you're buying gym wear.
Instead, search:
⢠100% Cotton
⢠Combed Cotton
⢠Heavyweight Cotton
⢠240-300 GSM Cotton
⢠Premium Cotton
⢠Mercerized Cotton
The heavier the GSM, the thicker and more premium the shirt usually feels.
2. Jeans:
Denim Jeans
Temu is surprisingly good for denim if you know what to search.
Search:
⢠Denim Jeans
⢠Cotton Denim
⢠Raw Denim
⢠Selvedge Denim (if available)
⢠98% Cotton + 2% Elastane
⢠99% Cotton
Avoid jeans with high polyester content. The more cotton, the better they'll age and feel.
3. Body-hug clothing:
Search:
⢠Ribbed Knit
⢠Modal
⢠Viscose Blend
⢠Cotton-Spandex Blend
They hold their shape much better than cheap polyester.
4. Hoodies
Search:
⢠400 GSM
⢠French Terry
⢠Cotton Fleece
⢠Heavyweight Hoodie
5. Chains
Search:
⢠316L Stainless Steel
⢠Titanium Steel
⢠PVD Gold Plated
⢠Vacuum Plated
These are far more resistant to fading than ordinary fashion jewelry.
6. Earrings
Search:
⢠925 Sterling Silver
⢠316L Stainless Steel
⢠Hypoallergenic
⢠Moissanite (if you're buying stones)
7. Scarves
Search:
⢠Mulberry Silk
⢠Silk Blend
⢠Cashmere Blend
⢠Wool Blend
⢠Viscose
Avoid the shiny, thin polyester scarves if you're after a premium look.
8. Loafers
Search:
⢠Genuine Leather
⢠Cow Leather
⢠Full Grain Leather (rare but worth looking for)
⢠Rubber Outsole
9. Sneakers
Search:
⢠Rubber Outsole
⢠EVA Midsole
⢠Breathable Mesh
⢠Leather Upper
⢠Stitched Sole
Pictures lie a lot
The description usually tells the truth.
Here's how I shop:
1. Read the material composition before anything else.
2. Sort by Most Orders or Best Selling, not cheapest.
3. Only buy products with lots of reviews or pictures or even better when a Nigerian has purchased it before they always tell the truth.
4. Read the 1-star reviews first. They'll tell you what the seller won't.
5. Look at customer photos, not the product photos.
6. Check the weight of the product. Better quality clothing is often heavier.
7. Read the size chart. Don't assume your Nigerian size matches.
8. If the title has words like "luxury," "premium," or "designer" but the material is 100% polyester, not everything but still move on.
Your best friend isn't the product picture.
It's the material, the reviews, and the customer photos.
That's how you separate the gems from the junk.
I hope this help.
Things are to expensive for a country this poor.
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Most people judge clothes on Temu by the photos.
Big mistake.
The fastest way to avoid buying clothes that feel like cheap plastic is to ignore the pictures and read the Fabric Composition.
Here's a simple cheat sheet:
Avoid (unless blended well)
⢠100% Polyester
⢠95% Polyester, 5% Spandex
⢠Cheap synthetic blends
Run away.
These are usually thin, shiny, trap heat, build static, and often feel like swimwear instead of actual clothing.
Look for
⢠Modal (extremely soft)
⢠Combed Cotton
⢠Ring-Spun Cotton
⢠100% Cotton
⢠Viscose/Rayon (soft and smooth)
If you're shopping for specific items:
Jeans:
Search "100% Cotton Denim", "Heavyweight Denim", or "Rigid Denim".
Dress shirts:
Search "Oxford Cotton", "Cotton Poplin", or "100% Cotton Dress Shirt".
Jackets:
Search "Heavyweight", "Fleece Lined", or "Wool Blend".
Vintage clothes:
Look for Corduroy, Heavy Knit, or Washed Cotton.
One last trick that saves me money every time:
Never trust the product photos.
Go straight to the reviews, filter by "With Photos", and look at pictures uploaded by real buyers. That's where you'll see what the fabric actually looks and feels like.
Also look out for promos, you can get stuff for cheap and free packages for a cheap price.
Hope this helps once you understand your size, body, texture or material you're good.
This is why the trolling and bullying about me in my bikini sets while I was on vacation never got to me. I blocked, turned off comments, anything to ensure I kept off negativity from my page because I know how hard I have worked to get here.
First frame was me in November last year, I never posted this picture despite attending the event. I was one month into my weight loss journey and already lost about 3kg (water weight) but I didnāt feel like I wanted the picture out there.
Fast forward to June 2026, 25kg down, stronger than I have been in years and some mean spirited people still felt like they had a right to speak on my body šš
I have worked hard mehn and Iām still going. Iām my biggest cheerleader.
If youāre young and you have some time on your hands. Pls sit on the internet and start obsessing about US stocks. Then get a side hustle or main job you use to fund it. Treat it like an obsession and wait for 5-10 years. Trust me your chances of financial independence is really high.