That Single Lutheran Dude

The voice of a 30ish year old single LCMS guy. Confessional, Liturgical. I’m here to state the not-so-obvious and ask the hard questions.

[That Single Lutheran Dude @LutheranSingle]

The culture of “church women” to treat men in church like garbage is absolutely astounding. What even more astounding is the leadership of the church turns a blind eye.
#singleMan #LCMS #single

[That Single Lutheran Dude @LutheranSingle]

Those he decided to give more, to show favor - why, he won’t ever say. And even that I must learn is enough.

[That Single Lutheran Dude @LutheranSingle]

I’m screaming into the void. The church doesn’t care. My parents don’t care - in fact they are delighted that I am single, no worry about a “girl” competing with them for my time at the holidays.

[That Single Lutheran Dude @LutheranSingle]

Or God ordained this - and what I am rejecting is his law that he is truly enough. He decided to give wives as companions to my fiends, and he is still enough. Others he gives children and yet he is still enough.

[That Single Lutheran Dude @LutheranSingle]

Imagine a world where there was a 50% instadeath at 35 for men. You had your chance to make a career, find a wife and have a few kids. You don’t need more time then that to do the worthwhile things.

And if you failed at that - you don’t have to suffer the rest of your life.

[That Single Lutheran Dude @LutheranSingle]

Maybe the “actual community” doesn’t care about the #singles but only the service they provide.

Now imagine being 35, no way out and looking at 40+ more years of this

[That Single Lutheran Dude @LutheranSingle]

If you didn’t show up to church on Sunday - would anyone notice?
If they did, would it be because you are missing? Or the job you are doing isn’t being done?

#truthOfSingleness #LCMS #church

[That Single Lutheran Dude @LutheranSingle]

Now think of the family with kids - what happens when they don’t show up? They rarely fill any volunteer jobs. How many people will reach out to them?

And yet it’s always the #singles responsibility to “build a community.”

[That Single Lutheran Dude @LutheranSingle]

Imagine a church where the culture tells the young man “yeh - work hard and maybe you will get a family, but half of you wont.”

That would be honestly.

That would be antithetical to everything a boomer holds dear.

[That Single Lutheran Dude @LutheranSingle]

The single women blame the men for a laundry list of failings. The church blames the men for not trusting God enough

Yet no one. NO ONE cares enough to change the culture.

After all why? The married folks go home to their spouses and children.

[That Single Lutheran Dude @LutheranSingle]

Even #memento is setup for the married man. The book Man Up revolved around procreation.
If you are single - you are kept out of the full life.

[That Single Lutheran Dude @LutheranSingle]

The #LCMS would do better to be honest to their male young singles. If you’re a man - your worth is how much you can volunteer and give. If you find a wife you are welcome into the full life. If you remain single - you are shuffled to the back.

[That Single Lutheran Dude @LutheranSingle]

@allie__voss 3) they are just average women who got jealous one of the girls landed a good man and decided to tear him apart.

[That Single Lutheran Dude @LutheranSingle]

The cruelest thing about this life is God won’t show you the path out of whatever early hell you are mired in.

If there is a way out - you have to find it.

[That Single Lutheran Dude @LutheranSingle]

@allie__voss Because she doesn’t really want to have a long term relationship! A women either wants to “actually get married” or play around until someone more exciting comes along

Then you also have ^^ whatever she is.