Girl to girl: Emotionally unavailable men will ruin you, btw. Stay away from nonchalant men who lack affection and compassion especially if you're a very loving girl.
in a relationship I love time and attention so much I could never survive a “we don’t have to talk everyday” warrior. mina nje you must over communicate, uthi baby ngsayo kaka and stuff, ubike ngathi isemsamo.
One day you'll meet a guy who tells you how his ex cheated on him, how she broke his heart, how he can't trust anyone anymore. He'll sound wounded, soft, and sincere, and you'll feel sorry for him. You'll want to prove that you're different, that not all women leave or lie. But My advice is? Run. It's a trap. Because most of the time he's not healed he's just carrying unprocessed pain, anger, and trust issues. And instead of fixing them, he'll slowly make you pay for what another woman did to him.
Imagine losing access to my laugh, my weird questions, my uplifting reminders, the way I see life, the depth of my conversations, my spark and most of all, my love and presence.
Once you develop a fear of calling your man because you are scared of how he will react or how he will make you feel, then something is not right with how he treats you
“Just wanted to hear your voice”
“Are you good, just checking in”
“I saw this and decided to get it for you”
“I might be asleep when you see this”
These simple things actually means a lot. ❤️