According to psychology, the urge to immediately fix a partner’s or friend’s distress instead of just sitting with them in it isn't empathy; it is your own low frustration tolerance. When someone you love is hurting, and you instantly jump into problem-solving mode, offering unsolicited advice or trying to find a silver lining, you are often trying to soothe your own secondary anxiety. You aren't rescuing them from their pain; you are rescuing yourself from the discomfort of witnessing a vulnerability you don't know how to hold.
will never forget when i crashed out over a guy and my therapist saw his picture she went confused & cringed and said "this is the guy....?" #humbled
will never forget when i crashed out over a guy and my therapist saw his picture she went confused & cringed and said "this is the guy....?" #humbled
ฉันนึกว่าจะเป็นคนรักดูแลหนังสือทุกเล่มอย่างดีอย่างแท้จริง เห็นคุณค่าในกระบวนการของหนังสือทุกๆ เล่ม ไม่ว่าจะเป็นเล่มที่เราชอบหรือไม่ แต่สรุป อ๋อ เป็น performative male final boss 🤭