With a broken heart I write this message to everyone that sadly my best friend @symstar and our good friend Austen sadly passed away late last night in a car accident. Tyler was celebrating his 21st birthday trip. I know he brought laughs and smiles to a lot of people and If any you have a nice memory or interaction with him please feel free to share it.
Attached are a few photos of them I hope you might say a prayer for both of them may they both rest in peace.
DATING RULES FOR 2026:
• If they make you anxious more than they make you laugh, it is a no. No debating, no ‘seeing how it goes’.
• Stop dating potential. If they are not already living the values you care about, you are not a partner, you are a project manager.
• No more ‘situationships’. They know if they want you. Silence and vagueness are an answer.
• Stop explaining basic empathy. If they pretend they don’t understand why mocking you, scaring you, or stonewalling you is cruel, they are not emotionally behind, they are just comfortable harming you.
• Believe the pattern, not the apology. Repeated behaviors are a decision, not a mistake.
• If they can’t speak about past partners without contempt, they are telling you how they handle disappointment. One day, that will be your name in the sentence.
• If every conflict ends with you comforting them about how they are ‘not a bad person’, you are managing their feelings, not resolving the problem.
• Match effort, not excuses. If you’re putting work into making them feel loved while also begging to be acknowledged, you are not in the same relationship.
• Watch how your body feels after you see them. Energized and calm is a yes. Drained, small, or confused is a no, even if the chemistry is insane.
• Kindness is non-negotiable. So are respecting boundaries and treating you like they want to be with you. You are not difficult for expecting all three at the same time.