One thing I have maintained over the years is my unavailability; not everyone has access to me. I love fun and interactions, but having access to my personal space is not something I give easily.
The most common lie men tell is, “I’m fine.” Sometimes those two words hide stress, depression, fear, and exhaustion.
Not every struggling man looks broken. Some are smiling, working, joking, and posting online.
Check on your brothers.
Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month 🤍
"The conversation you crave becomes rarer. The connection you seek becomes rarer. The person capable of meeting you on equal footing becomes rarer."
This is exactly why most of us struggle to find relationships these days.
I believe extreme intelligence, anything north of an IQ of 150, makes finding a life partner extraordinarily difficult.
Think about it. It is entirely possible that main reason people like Newton never married was because they simply could not find women who could meet them where they lived intellectually. Human beings desire many things in a partner, but understanding ranks far higher than most are willing to admit.
You might point to people like Feynman or Von Neumann and say they married. Fair enough. Yet both men married more than once, which only strengthens my suspicion. The higher one’s intelligence, the smaller the circle of people capable of genuinely sharing one’s interests, curiosities and obsessions. The world becomes increasingly populated by people you can speak to, yet remarkably sparse in people who truly understand what excites you.
At some point, intelligence ceases to be an advantage and becomes a kind of isolation. The conversation you crave becomes rarer. The connection you seek becomes rarer. The person capable of meeting you on equal footing becomes rarer. And rarity, as I have found, has always been the enemy of finding love.
I believe extreme intelligence, anything north of an IQ of 150, makes finding a life partner extraordinarily difficult.
Think about it. It is entirely possible that main reason people like Newton never married was because they simply could not find women who could meet them where they lived intellectually. Human beings desire many things in a partner, but understanding ranks far higher than most are willing to admit.
You might point to people like Feynman or Von Neumann and say they married. Fair enough. Yet both men married more than once, which only strengthens my suspicion. The higher one’s intelligence, the smaller the circle of people capable of genuinely sharing one’s interests, curiosities and obsessions. The world becomes increasingly populated by people you can speak to, yet remarkably sparse in people who truly understand what excites you.
At some point, intelligence ceases to be an advantage and becomes a kind of isolation. The conversation you crave becomes rarer. The connection you seek becomes rarer. The person capable of meeting you on equal footing becomes rarer. And rarity, as I have found, has always been the enemy of finding love.
An Italian Mafia proverb says:
Never betray your wife because if you are capable of betraying a woman who trusts you enough to close her eyes and sleep next to you, you are not worthy of the trust of the entire world.
Your enemy doesn't know your mother's cooking or your childhood nickname or your real soft spots. The one who'll use those against you... you call them family. The people eating your peace have a key to your door. Betrayal thrives on proximity.
You're dating your Gen Z girlfriend, & you invite her to your house.
Instead of her to bring along fruits, or branch the market to purchase food items that she would use to cook, she'll come with 2 G-strings, a black bra, kY-jelly, make up kits, phone, ringlight & tripod.
End.