Middle Fingers Up Podcast

The show where we keep our heads high and our middle fingers higher. We explore relationships, mental health and everything in between.

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Choosing yourself isn't selfish; it's about being your authentic self. Like a flower being its #SelfCare #Authenticity

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Growing up in LA, raised by a Puerto Rican mother and exploring half Mexican heritage, life brought moves to NY/NJ. Experiencing diverse cultures and the trauma of racial injustice and bigotry opened eyes.

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From funny mall songs to deep dives into Calgary's race relations, sharing specific cultural nuances resonates deeply. People connect with calling out everyday experiences in relatable, humorous ways. #Calgary #Culture #Community

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It's unsettling how quickly Black women, even public figures, are assigned maternal or "auntie" roles without consent. This unsolicited "mom now" label, often seen in parasocial dynamics, is imposed when they haven't chosen to brand themselves that way.

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No one is born a misogynist. We're all born with an innate equality, not hating others or believing women should be oppressed. The question isn't 'When did you discover feminism?' but 'When did you first notice misogyny?

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The conversation around adoption and trafficking is often framed by a 'savior narrative.' Vulnerable children are taken from homes, supposedly for the 'greater good.' It's crucial to understand the reality and how we can step up. #ChildWelfare #Adoption #EndTrafficking

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Choosing a lane for family and work-life balance doesn't mean abandoning passions. Self-awareness is key: know when to embrace your path and when to re-engage with what matters. Authenticity is meeting yourself where you are, every day. #SelfAwareness #Authenticity

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Leaving an abusive, controlling relationship meant unlearning deeply ingrained patterns. Realizing my own controlling behaviors and wounds was key to moving forward and healing. #Healing #PersonalGrowth #AbuseAwareness

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The term 'mammify' originates from the harmful stereotype of Black women being endlessly nurturing and self-sacrificing, particularly within white families. Understanding this history is crucial to our current conversations. #CulturalContext #Stereotypes

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When men declare themselves feminists, it's often a performance, not genuine belief. Hearing "I'm a feminist" from a politician or public figure can immediately turn some people off, regardless of their actions or donations. #Feminism #Authenticity

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You're not alone in your struggles. A supportive community can offer immense relief, validating your experiences and sharing how they navigate similar challenges. To move forward, sometimes you need to revisit the past and address what's holding you back. #Support #Community

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We fixate on the final outcome, ignoring the journey. Even when a child thrives after adoption, we overlook the entire experience leading to that 'okay' result. It's wild how we only see the end, not the build-up. #Adoption #Family #LifeLessons

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Many hesitate to pursue creative dreams due to fear of judgment or believing their path is unique. The truth is, taking calculated risks is key. Don't let 'what ifs' stop you from exploring your passions. #CreativeJourney #TakeTheLeap

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Life isn't just problems; it's also joy and celebration. This podcast balances relatable struggles with success stories, using humor to explore nuances and overcome stigma. Because even within difficult topics, there's a lot to celebrate. #BrownGirlProblems #Culture #Joy

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White supremacy isn't just individual bias; it's a system embedded in us. Recognizing this shared impact, not as a personal attack, helps unpack its weight and foster genuine human connection. #SystemicIssues #SelfReflection #SocialAwareness

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A key distinction: caring FOR someone's feelings vs. caring ABOUT their feelings. You can offer empathy and support without making their emotions your responsibility to fix. Prioritize your own well-being when navigating others' strong emotions. #EmotionalIntelligence #SelfCare

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The journey of self-discovery and reconditioning can activate a profound sense of loneliness. It's a tough realization, but setting boundaries—whether blocking, limiting contact, or keeping conversations minimal—is crucial for personal growth.

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Navigating identity can be tough, facing judgment from different sides. Humor became a way to build bridges and forge an identity, turning potential conflict into connection and education. #Identity #Humor #Connection

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In today's world, 'mammified' means unconsciously expecting women, especially Black women, to carry the community's caregiving load. For many eldest daughters, this means caring for younger siblings from a young age. #Caregiving #Community

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The phrase "Not all men" misses the point. We're discussing systems and structures, not individual actions. Will you help dismantle these systems for everyone's benefit, or perpetuate privilege? Freedom benefits all; it's not a limited pie. #Feminism #SocialJustice