This @nytimes op-ed completely misses the point on the purpose of marriage and children and completely misrepresents my views in the process. The entire article is laced with viewing family through the lens of money and career as if those things bring fulfillment and purpose. When you’re on your death bed, your money and your career won’t be whispering in your ear “I love you” as you take your last breath. The material goods and fortune of this world mean nothing when we go to our eternal resting place.
The author also conveniently leaves out the part of my Hillsdale commencement speech where I said “marry young, not rushed, but young.”
We serve a God of order and when you live a life ordered there’s a double portion of grace. Meaning marriage first, then kids, and everything else. Timing matters because life is shorter than you might think, and you never know what could happen. The point is, don’t put it off. Don’t rush it or force it if it’s not right, but don’t put it off.
I say this from a place of personal reflection. My marriage with Charlie and our babies are the biggest blessings of my life. I was 32 when I married Charlie, which in my mind is neither young to start a family or old. You just run up against statistics at that point and it just so happened to be the Lord’s timing and He still blessed us with two beautiful children. But I wish we met and were able to start our life and family together much sooner.
There is no such thing as perfect timing to have kids. Financial struggles are a part of life, but the problem is a lot of Americans are self-surviving, not self-sacrificing, and they expect to live a very distinct lifestyle based on what they see online. When Charlie encouraged young people to have more kids than they can afford, he wasn’t saying to recklessly bring a child into this world and have them on welfare. He was saying children aren’t a luxury item to have once you meet a certain tax bracket threshold. You don’t need a mansion in order to build a family.
It’s easy when you’re young to think that you have all the time in the world, but it’s a hard fact of life and science that that’s simply not the case. If you've met your person and you’re checking off boxes based on societal expectations of dating for a couple years, then a long engagement, then adjusting to married life before having children, you’re wasting valuable time. Getting pregnant in your late 30s and 40s is usually a lot harder than in your late 20s. Not always, but it’s a hard reality for many couples.
The inverted priorities of our current culture encourages women to believe that getting married and having children are weights on an otherwise rich and carefree existence. And yet, young Americans have never felt less happy or carefree. Children are not an obstacle, they're a gift from the Lord. They give life so much more meaning than you could ever imagine. When we stop looking at marriage and children as barriers to a happy life, maybe then there’ll be progress in this country.
Let me get this straight.
In America, in 2026, a federal judge just ruled that the government is NOT ALLOWED to check whether the people voting in our elections are actually American citizens.
Let that sink in.
A foreign-born Biden-appointed judge, confirmed on a pure party-line vote, says verifying citizenship is illegal.
Every other country on earth checks. Colombia, a NARCO STATE requires ID to vote. We're told it's a violation of "rights."
How is this controversial? How is this even a DEBATE?
Your vote is being stolen in slow motion.
Pass the SAVE America Act.
The standard applied by DOGE was very simple and easy:
Provide contact information for the recipients of aid, so that we can confirm it is not fraudulent.
The reality is that money was being sent to corrupt politicians under the guise of aid! Liars and stock insider traders like Ro the Robber should be in prison!!
@RealCandaceO@LauraLoomer Charlie's death has exposed you for the vile, jealous and horrible human you are. No wonder Charlie unfollowed you before his death. He saw who you were and distanced himself. You are sad, pathetic and honestly pretty evil.
This is what honest people do when they get into positions of power in the government, but 99.9% are just addicted to the position. Think of all the people who have been lying to you, and those who are covering up for them.