Friends, foes and the liars inbetween
Pretentious, loving but a demon masked with glee
Aloof to all hatred, Self deceit is their own feat
Oh snitching little crickets, do you ever run out of noise
Irritating to their victims yet melodious to their own mates..
i puffed out my chest, rolled up my sleeves, and dove in like a champ…
two paragraphs later… i was drowning in a sea of confusion, waving a white flag. My brain had left the chat 😂😂😂😅
Let me share my opinion on the Islamic perspective to this.
In Islam, every creation has a Ghayah (an ultimate end). This is why I argue that a child with a disability is not a biological error: they are also a purposeful creation.
The first thing we look at is the biological timeline. Based on the words of the Prophet (peace be upon him), the soul is breathed into the body at 120 days. Before this mark, the fetus is a living entity but has not reached full legal personhood as a soul.
If a medical board confirms a fatal condition that is incompatible with life, some scholars allow a choice for termination to avoid unbearable hardship. But once that 120 day mark passes, the child is a full citizen of this world. At that point, the move is no longer about a medical choice. It is about a commitment to a life that Allah has already decided to send.
Again, we have to be very careful with how we categorize disability because not all conditions are the same. A fatal malformation such as anencephaly, where the child cannot survive outside the womb, is handled with a specific legal leniency before the soul is breathed in.
However, for conditions that are life altering but sustainable, such as Down Syndrome or physical limb differences, the Islamic argument is one of patience (Sabr) and spiritual refinement.
Allah says in the Quran that He created humans in the best of stature. This does not mean everyone has a perfect body or a high IQ. It means the design is perfect for that soul's specific journey and test.
A child who may never commit a sin due to his/her incapacity or who requires constant care is a specialized mission from the Creator.
Ibn al-Qayyim argued this in Miftah Dar al-Sa'adah that the existence of "deficiency" in the world is proof of the "Perfection" of the Creator. He made a profound intellectual point: if everything were perfect, we would never know what mercy, completeness, patience, or gratitude looked like. In this context, it forces the parents and the community to practice mercy (Rahmah) and humility.
Again in Islam, there is a paradox in how we look at strength. While the world thinks a disabled child takes away your resources, the Prophet (peace be upon him) taught us that victory and provision (Rizq) come because of the weak among us.
That child might be the secret reason you have a job, health, wealth, or safety. They are not the ones dependent on you. You are the one dependent on the blessings that come with their presence in your home.
If this happens to a Muslim, the next move for a father is to be the pillar (Qawwam) for his wife. He must ensure she feels no shame or guilt. He should realize he has been selected to raise a guest of Jannah. This is a promotion in rank, not a tragedy to be avoided.
You are being asked to guard a soul that Allah specifically chose for your house. Your role is to accept the decree (Qadar) and prepare for a unique gate to Paradise that most people will never have the chance to enter.
Allah knows best.
How do you stop the masturbation addiction?
Addiction to masturbation is essentially a dopamine loop. From experience, you cannot break it with just willpower. You need a practical and spiritual system.
First of all, you need to apply the Prophetic prescription. The Prophet (peace be upon him) advised young people who cannot get married to fast. This is because fasting physically weakens the driving force of the desire and builds immense spiritual discipline. It trains your body to say "no" to lawful food, which makes it easier to say "no" to unlawful desires.
Secondly, you must starve your triggers. Just as Imam Ibn-l-Qayyim said, the eyes is the window to the soul. Your urge is triggered by what you consume. If you are constantly looking at soft-porn on Instagram, TikTok, or movies, your brain will eventually demand a release. Lower your gaze, both physically and digitally. What you do not feed will eventually starve.
Again, you need to eliminate the environment of sin. The devil thrives in isolation. Most relapses happen when you are alone, bored, and have a screen in your hand. Do not take your phone into the bathroom. Do not stay up late alone in your room with the lights off. Sleep early. If you feel the urge coming, physically leave the room and sit where people are.
Finally, never let Shaytan use your sin to push you away from Allah. Recovery is a journey. If you slip and fall, do not stay on the ground thinking you are a hypocrite. That is exactly what Shaytan wants. Make Wudu immediately, pray two Raka'at of Tawbah, and start again. Allah does not expect you to be flawless; He expects you to keep fighting and returning to Him.
I pray this works for you.
Allah knows best.
A Nigerian man was working as a cashier at a DIY (hardware) store in London.
He was caught letting his wife steal £200 worth of materials.
Both convicted.
One year later he was arrested again.
This time at Euston station with another man’s stolen credit card.
Convicted again.
He returned to Nigeria.
And he ran for governor of Delta State.
Nigerian law said you cannot run if you have a criminal conviction.
He forged his date of birth on his passport to hide his UK record.
Nobody checked.
He won. 😂😂😂
His official salary as governor was $25,000 a year.
He bought six properties in London. A mansion in Johannesburg. Properties in Washington and Houston. A private jet worth $20 million. A Bentley. A Maybach. A fleet of armoured Range Rovers.
His American Express bills showed he spent tens of thousands of dollars every single month on luxury hotels, clubs and shopping.
In 2007 Nigeria’s anti-corruption chief accused him of stealing $250 million from Delta State.
Ibori offered the EFCC chairman $15 million in cash to drop the case.
The chairman pretended to accept.
Then deposited the cash at the Central Bank.
Nigerian courts still acquitted him on all 170 charges.
He ran. Escaped to Dubai. A mob of his supporters fought off the police trying to arrest him.
Interpol caught him in Dubai.
The UK extradited him.
In 2012 he pleaded guilty in a London court.
The judge called the £50 million he admitted to stealing “ludicrously low.”
He was sentenced to 13 years.
Served half.
Returned to Nigeria in 2017.
A sitting senator was in the crowd that welcomed him home.
His name is James Ibori.
Nigeria never convicted him once.
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Hello Lola, I am a Muslim, and our spiritual tradition has a very deep approach to raising children. I want to share some tips from our scholars that will be beneficial to you regardless of your faith.
First of all, our theology teaches the concept of Fitrah. This means that every child is born with a pure heart. At six years old, she is not a criminal mastermind. She does not have a wicked soul.
If she doesn’t have all these, then what is happening? The truth is that she is just lacking impulse control and testing boundaries. By this, if you look at her as a manipulator, you will fight her. However, if you look at her as a pure soul making mistakes, you will be able to guide her.
Secondly, for every problem anyone faces today, it has been solved in history. The only problem is how to locate them.
A classical scholar named Al-Ghazali wrote about child psychology over 900 years ago in his famous book “Ihya Ulum al-Din.” In his section on disciplining children, he gave a practical rule I want you to adopt going forward.
He advised that parents should never push a child into a corner where they are forced to lie. When you ask a question you already know the answer to, her survival instinct kicks in. She cries and she lies to defend herself because she is scared of you. Stop interrogating her. Just look at her and state the fact. Say, I know you took this, and we are going to return it right now.
Again, another scholar and sociologist Ibn Khaldun addressed this exact behavior in his masterpiece titled: “Al-Muqaddimah.” He warned that when a child is raised with harsh punishment, they learn deceit, trickery, and lying to protect themselves. This is why she is covering her tracks and crying to manipulate you. The fear of a harsh reaction is making her a better liar.
Lola, do not attach a label to her. Do not ever call her a thief. If you attack her identity instead of her action, she will internalize it and grow into that dark label. Tell her the action is wrong but protect her dignity.
Make her return the item. Do not fall for the tears. Hold her hand, walk her back to wherever she took it from, and make her hand it back and apologize. The discomfort of returning a stolen item teaches a much better lesson than beating her will ever do.
Finally, I don’t know if you are a Muslim, but never underestimate the power of your own words. In our faith, we believe the prayer of a parent for a child goes straight to God without any barrier. Pray over her. Pray for her heart to be content and for her character to be straight.
Keep doing this consistently and the habit will break.
Allah knows best.
After a certain age, your parents slowly become your children. They ask simple questions, repeat stories, and depend on your patience the way you once depended on theirs. Very few understand this role reversal.What looks like innocence or inconvenience is really time coming full circle. Don't correct them harshly. Don't rush them. Care for them the way they once protected you. This is not a burden. It is repayment.
Dear Zuha,
I know you are inquisitive about how our religious days fit into the modern world. It is a brilliant question. I will be breaking this down for you so you can clearly see that Islam is not a copycat. It is a complete system with its own deep, independent roots.
Firstly, you asked: if the Gregorian calendar is not real, why do Muslims pray on Friday, and is there a different Friday in the Islamic calendar?
To help you and others understand, we have to go back to history.
Pope Gregory was the one who introduced the Gregorian calendar, and he introduced it in 1582. However, when you look at Islamic history, you will see that Muslims had been observing Jumu'ah for nearly a thousand years before that Pope was even born. If you open classical books of Islamic history such as the Seerah of Ibn Hisham or The Sealed Nectar, the physical proof is right there.
These books documented the very first Jumu'ah prayer held by the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) in 622 CE. It took place in the valley of Ranuna during his migration from Mecca to Medina. In that same era, Allah revealed an entire chapter in the Quran called Surah Al-Jumu'ah, where He commanded the believers to leave their worldly trades and gather. This proves Yawm al-Jumu'ah was a lived reality in the 7th century, over 900 years before the Gregorian calendar existed in Rome.
Now, you might wonder how this connects to the Friday we know today. Frankly, the seven day weekly loop is an entirely different system from how we count solar or lunar months. It is an ancient, unbroken mathematical cycle. You do not even have to take my word for it. Non Muslim historians and sociologists agree on this.
For instance, Eviatar Zerubavel in his book The Seven Day Circle confirmed that this weekly cycle has remained completely unbroken for thousands of years across different empires. The day the Western world decided to call Friday aligns seamlessly with the sixth day of that ancient cycle.
In Arabic, the days are just numbered. Sunday is Day One. Monday is Day Two. The sixth day is Yawm al-Jumu'ah, the Day of Gathering. This means we do not pray on this day to honor a Roman calendar. That is, it was just a coincidental relationship. We pray on it because Allah established it on a divine timeline.
Secondly, you asked: why is Friday night considered so blessed, and what are you missing here?
To understand this, we have to look at the foundations of human existence. Friday goes more than just the end of the work week. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) taught us that Friday is the day Prophet Adam (peace be upon him) was created, the day he entered Paradise, the day he was sent to earth, and the day the world will end.
This is why the Prophet had a very profound routine. Every Friday during the early morning Fajr prayer, he would recite Surah As-Sajdah and Surah Al-Insan. He did this deliberately. These two chapters detail the creation of the universe, the biological creation of man, and the intense realities of the Day of Judgment. Praying these chapters every Friday morning is a divine reset. It reminds you of your origin and your final destination, both of which are tied to this specific day.
Because Friday carries the heavy weight of the end of times, reciting Surah Al-Kahf is your spiritual shield. The Surah contains stories about the ultimate trials of wealth, power, and faith. Reading it provides a divine light that protects your heart from the materialistic noise of the world and the deception of the Dajjal until the next Jumu'ah.
So by this fact, you are not missing anything. You just need to see that we are not following a Gregorian Friday. We are following a divine timeline. Don’t fret.
Allah knows best.
A chief owned all the wells in a village. Every morning, people lined up to buy water. The price kept rising.
The people grumbled quietly. "This is too much." But when they reached the front, they paid and left.
One day, a young man asked his father, "Why don't we dig our own well?"
His father muttered, "Shhh. The chief has guards. They will come at night. Just pay and stay quiet."
"But Papa, we are many. The guards are few," the boy responded.
The father whispered, "Yes, but what if they remember our faces? Better to suffer than be singled out."
So they kept paying. The price kept rising. Families bathed once a week. Children drank less water. Still, they paid.
The chief watched from his balcony and smiled. "I don't even need guards. Fear is cheaper than force. As long as they fear what might happen more than they hate what is happening, they'll never resist."
A council member asked him, "What if they realise they outnumber us?"
The chief laughed. "They know. But each waits for someone else to speak first. While they wait, I raise the price."
The prison with no walls is the one where every man guards his own chains.
INALEGWU.
BREAKING: QatarEnergy just declared Force Majeure.
Three words that mean: we cannot deliver, and legally, we do not have to.
This is no longer a supply disruption. This is a contract collapse.
Force Majeure is not a precaution. It is a formal legal declaration that an unforeseeable event beyond QatarEnergy’s control has made fulfillment impossible. Every affected buyer just had their contract voided. The gas they were counting on is gone, and they have no legal recourse to get it back.
82% of Qatar’s LNG goes to Asia.
China relies on Qatar for 30% of its LNG imports. India 42 to 52%. South Korea 14 to 19%. Taiwan 25%. Japan is already rationing to spot markets.
Asian benchmark prices jumped 39% the day production stopped.
Force Majeure just made that permanent until further notice.
Indian companies have already cut gas supplies to industry by 10 to 30%. That is not a market adjustment. That is factories running at reduced capacity today, across the world’s most populous continent, because Iran sent drones into Ras Laffan.
Here is the number the market still has not fully absorbed.
Two weeks to restart a liquefaction train after a full cold shutdown. Then two more weeks to reach full capacity. That is a minimum of four weeks at zero, assuming no further strikes, no security complications, no inspection delays.
The war is still running.
There is no security guarantee. There is no restart timeline. There is no floor.
Every LNG contract in Asia just became a spot market problem. Every spot market problem just became an inflation problem. Every inflation problem just became a central bank problem.
This started as a war in the Middle East.
It is now inside every factory, every power plant, and every gas bill across Asia.
Price that chain.
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Mechanical calculators with 1 being closest to the user predate push button phones by 80 years.
This story is myth.
Comptometers dropped in 1887 and it wasn't even the first. Bell's first push button phone dropped in 1963.
Texas Instruments first calculator publicly dropped almost a decade AFTER Bell's phone in 1972.
If Bell was still "concerned" about key placement after selling that phone for 10 years, I'd be surprised.