It's a Valentine's Day surprise. 🌻
@GlenLewisSA, @skhumbi & @Kgomotsomeso surprised Kaya 959 listener, Mpho.
Mpho's secret crush sent a message to Kaya 959 asking us to send her a special hamper.
Who are we to deny love?
We got the team together and off we went to Mpho's place of work.
And what a surprise she got...
#SecretCrushOnKaya959 #ValentinesDay #Drive959
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Being in a healthy relationship truly taught me there’s no such thing as “that's just the way I am”. When you genuinely love a person, you work on those toxic traits, you learn to communicate, you actively listen to each others thoughts & feelings, you grow and heal together.
Some of us believe other people's emotions are our responsibility. This creates anxiety, resentment, and shame spirals.
Other people's emotions aren't our responsibility.
Here's why:
we’re not entitled to anyone’s time. we’re not entitled to anyone’s energy. people don’t owe us anything. which is why the privilege of knowing and sharing space with people we care for should be seen as a privilege and opportunity, rather than a thing that is owed.
emotional maturity is being able to stay connected when conversations get difficult. be attentive, offer presence. do not weaponize the love in your relationships to escape accountability. give assurance, create space for growth. compassion is a lifeline for lasting connections.
HOW TO BE AN ADULT IN LOVE:
1. Clearly communicate your needs
2. Practice active listening
3. Learn how to compromise
4. Take and give space when needed
5. Get comfortable with uncomfortable conversations
If you’re always trying to read people’s emotions or wonder if someone is upset with you, you might have an insecure attachment style.
HERE’S WHAT THAT MEANS 🧵: