Date someone who is curious about you. Not someone who simply finds you attractive or entertaining, but someone who wants to know the person behind the surface. Someone who reads every message twice, remembers the stories you almost forgot to tell, and notices the little things no one else does. Someone who wants to know where your scars came from, what shaped you, what makes you laugh, and what keeps you awake at night. Attraction may draw someone in, but genuine interest is what makes them stay. Find someone who wants to learn every layer of who you are.
Master the art of being finished with people. Not bitter, not dramatic, not seeking revenge, just at peace with the decision. Sometimes maturity looks like walking away quietly and choosing your well being over another explanation. You can love someone and still recognize when their access to you has expired.
Women will tell you there are no good men left, but the truth is a lot of women have met an amazing, intentional man...they were just too young, too distracted, or too arrogant to value him at the time.
You treat his patience like a weakness, blow his money, or ignore his effort because you assume he will always be there as a safety net. By the time you wake up and realize what you threw away, someone else is already wearing the ring....
One of the hardest truths in relationships is this-
You and your partner will hurt each other,even when you love each other deeply. People like to believe that real love means no pain,but that’s a fantasy. Real love includes moments that sting. Not because your partner is bad or toxic,but they are human. And humans mess up. They’ll say the wrong thing,they’ll disappoint you,they’ll fall short in ways they never meant to and you’ll hurt them too. You’ll miss their needs,you’ll fail without realising it. The question isn’t will this happen,because it will. The real question is what you do after the hurt. Can you talk about it? Can you stay when it’s uncomfortable? Can you choose the relationship over your ego? Can you forgive and be forgiven? Can you grow instead of walking away?
There are no perfect partners,but there are people worth keeping. The ones who stay and heal with you.
To all those who have successfully passed the Bar Examination following the release of today's results by CLE @CLE_Kenya , congratulations.
Today marks the reward for years of sacrifice, discipline, resilience, and unwavering commitment to the study of law. You have overcome one of the most demanding milestones on the path to legal practice and earned your place at the threshold of a noble profession.
As you prepare to take your place at the Bar, may you carry this achievement with humility, integrity, and a steadfast commitment to the administration of justice. The profession welcomes you.
To those whose names did not appear on the pass list today, this result does not define your worth, your intellect, or your future in the law. A setback is not a verdict on your potential. It is merely a chapter in a much longer story.
The pain you feel today is real. Allow yourself to process it. But do not allow one examination to convince you that your dream has ended. The same determination that carried you this far remains within you. The same capacity to succeed remains unchanged.
Hold your head high. This is not the end of your journey. It is simply a detour on the road to the Bar.
Your story is still being written.
If you are a University lecturer and supervisor of Master’s students, by all means encourage students to learn how to write scientific journal articles but please stop encouraging them to submit such exercises to actual journals because you think it would be a good learning exercise for them. 🛑 ✋🏽 Many/most editors and reviewers provide their time voluntarily as part of their sense of duty to science. It is the job of the paid University supervisor to check the students’ work.
What puzzles me is why a senior University academic would allow their name to be on some of the many manuscript submissions I have reviewed. Did they even read it? Every author must sign that they have read and approved of the final manuscript, so what’s going on?
The Dying Art of Keeping a Practice Note
A significant number of the dispute resolution lawyers I admire keep a robust Practice Note in which they record excerpts from important judicial authorities they encounter in the course of their careers. Some of them take their Practice Notes to the courtroom, while others consult them only when researching.
I started keeping a Practice Note in 2010, and I have found it highly beneficial over the years. It makes the judgments I have read over the years stick with me, and I can always go back to them to refresh my memory. I started with physical notes and have about 4 volumes, but I now write my notes in longhand on my iPad because it is much easier and more accessible.
I usually get ideas for the cases I am working on whenever I go through my Practice Notes, and I strongly believe that every dispute resolution lawyer should keep a Practice Note. I once had a senior colleague at one of the firms where I worked who had a digital Practice Note, and I was not surprised when they got elevated to the bench. Most lawyers who have appeared before the Judge attest to their brilliance, and that brilliance does not surprise me. It is the kind of depth that comes from the discipline of keeping a Practice Note over many years.
Unfortunately, many young lawyers these days don’t keep a Practice Note because they do not want to go through the rigours of maintaining one. While technology has made it easier for lawyers to access judicial authorities from anywhere, there is always a significant difference between lawyers who regularly read judicial authorities and keep Practice Notes and those who only use technology to access authorities when working on cases. Reading and taking notes usually make what you have read become a part of you, while relying on technology alone for quick access will not give you the depth required to excel as a dispute resolution lawyer.
Many authors and philosophers have written about the importance of keeping notes in any field. In his book Wisdom Takes Work, Ryan Holiday explains the importance of keeping notes as follows:
“It’s not enough to read. One should engage in a practice of capturing information and recording it so it can be drawn on later.”
If you are a young lawyer and you don’t keep a Practice Note, take this as your prompt to start one. Trust me, you will never regret the time you invest in maintaining a Practice Note.
The older you get, the more you realize luck is mostly exposure. If you sit in the same place, have the same routine, talking to the same people, nothing new really happens. You have to tackle the world to succeed. Travel more. Talk to people.
I didn’t start in a top tier firm, never worked in one, had no back up family fund, no fall back funds and no trust fund. Was the daughter of a public primary school teacher who spent afterschool in Isheri frying Garri, fetching water and watching our mum use our unpainted wall as blackboard for our school work revision.
While I’m still on my breakthrough journey, here are few things I’ve learnt so far:
1. Use your early years for learning. Yes, you may or may not be well paid but ensure you are learning. In my early years, If I’m not getting it from the firm, I ensured I was getting it from the news, law reports and friends in more active practice than I was.
2. Keep showing up: Some days will be good, some days, tough and other days outrightly bad. One thing you can’t stop doing however is showing up.
3. Never be comfortable doing nothing. Take on more tasks, more work and ensure you challenge yourself always. In my early years, I recall walking to my supervisor to ask for work once I see that I had nothing to do. I didn’t dress up, leave Iyana Ipaja for Lekki at 5am just to come do nothing.
4. Seek value adding opportunities. This is life. Where you arrived with a wobbly wooden ladder, someone else got there by an elevator. Don’t despise your wobbly ladder. Appreciate that it’s helping you move ahead in a place where some are still on the ground. Do not, however, be filled with unnecessary admiration of your wobbly ladder, focus on how you can make it better, how you can get an iron ladder, how you can build a staircase, how you can own your own elevator and finally how you can fly, outpacing even the elevator.
The goal is to keep moving.
5. Imagination and innovation should be your companion. Books, movies and the internet has helped us a lot in promoting equal access and opportunities. Take full advantage of this. Keep the vision of where you want to be in mind at all times. Make sure everything you do is taking you a step closer to where you want to be. It’s okay if outsiders do not understand you and how you are moving. You alone know your goal, your map and your journey. Every single time you look at your vision, ensure you improve on it. Do it better.
Also, that you have not worked in a top tier firm does not mean that you cannot admire them from afar, watch what they are doing, listen to the interviews of their visioneers, and aim to build something similar if not better than what they have built.
6. Whether one naira or one million naira in fees, so long as your name will be on it, ensure excellence. What this means is that you must maintain a general standard of excellence and never be one to have adjustable level excellence based on fees paid per client. Be clear in your expressions, sound in your reasoning and knowledgeable in the advisory you offer clients.
Again, as I am still on this journey myself, I hope to continue to learn more and share as I encounter them. 🙏🏽
Nimesoma Article iliyoandikwa na Adv. Mark Malekela @MalekelaMark kuhusu issue ya Sheria ya mambo ya CCTV iliyotangazwa jana.
Ameelezea vizuri sana, inaelaborate vzuri kushinda hata some of the medias zilizoreport kuhusu hilo
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Today we’re introducing a new Legal Agent in @Microsoft Word, built to support the precision and rigor legal work demands. Every clause matters. Every redline tells a story. That’s why this agent was built to follow the structured workflows lawyers use while keeping them fully in control.
Early in my career, I asked for a computer on my desk because I believed technology could change how lawyers work. It did. Today, I believe this next generation of tools will do the same, grounded in trust and responsible use.
WATCH: Justice Minister and Attorney General Emmanuel Ugirashebuja's full opening statement as the Permanent Court of Arbitration in The Hague begins hearings in a dispute between #Rwanda and the United Kingdom over the unimplemented asylum agreement.
WATCH: Lord Guglielmo Verdirame, one of the lawyers on #Rwanda’s legal team in the UK migration dispute, raises key points for the tribunal to decide upon, regarding how the UK might have breached some terms of the agreement signed between the two countries.
If someone can’t see your value or tell you why you matter to them, stop giving them access to you. Your attention is one of the most valuable things you have. Don’t spend it on people who take it for granted.