If you want to recover faster from setbacks then skip the "why me" phase entirely and go straight to "what now." Victim mindset isn't just a feeling, it's also a sentence structure.
Change the sentence and you change the trajectory.
Thereโs an old Chinese proverb that I love:
โHe who blames others has a long way to go on his journey. He who blames himself is halfway there. He who blames no one has arrived.โ
Marcus Aurelius was right. You will lose friends you will lose lovers you will lose comfort but if in losing them you find yourself you have gained more than kings.