Things the recovery industry will not tell you:
1. The drug worked. That is why people use it. Not weakness. Not moral failure.
A neurological event so complete and persuasive that any honest account of addiction has to start there.
The problem is not that the drug fails. The problem is that what it does is unrepeatable, and you will burn your entire life to the ground trying to get back to a place that no longer exists.
2. Shame is not guilt. Guilt says I did something bad. Shame says I am something bad. Guilt is appropriate. Shame is a cell with no windows. Most people use the words interchangeably. That mistake is lethal.
3. You cannot shame someone who has already named the thing you are holding over them. Say it first. Say it in plain light. The weapon drops.
4. Guilt can coexist with self-respect. Shame cannot. You can hold the damage and the dignity at the same time. I know because I live there.
5. Radical honesty does not give you back who you were. It hands you the clean slate of who you always wanted to be. The mask comes off. The cartoon other people drew of you stays on the page.
6. Nobody gets clean on a winning streak.
7. You have to be almost self-delusional in your forgiveness of yourself. (Go watch Chase Hughes)
8. The greatest sin was not the chaos. It was the absence. Being unavailable to the people who needed you.
9. Sustainable recovery starts with one thing: honesty with yourself. If you love an addict and want to help, that is the only door in.
10. I am only an expert on my recovery. Nobody is an expert on anyone else’s.
Who can raise their hand and say, straight in the eye, that they have never—not for a single second in their life—supported Donald Trump, neither through their words, nor their actions, nor their silence?
They keep saying “save more” like we’re just bad with money.
Save what?
Rent is insane. Food is expensive. One small emergency wipes you out.
At some point you have to admit it…
this system doesn’t work for normal people anymore.
Wait: are we really doing this?
People are arguing about how Trump voted (mail vs. in-person)…
but ignoring the obvious question:
Isn’t there federal law about felons voting?
If Donald Trump told the police that Ghislaine Maxwell was “evil”, why did he “wish her well” during his first term and relocate her to a bougie club fed during his second?
The same people who shot down a party balloon because they thought it was a cartel drone also murdered fishermen at sea because they thought the fishermen were drug dealers.
BREAKING: Pam Bondi appears to have just committed a federal crime by lying under oath.
@tedlieu just caught her in a lie and called for her resignation live on TV.
The attorney general of the United States went before Congress and told them that the economy is more important than powerful men, including trump, raping kids.
Bad Bunny’s halftime show featured a straight marriage, blue collar workers, and praised Jesus, all while showcasing a rarely celebrated territory of America. Conservatives should’ve loved it, but are blinded by their racism. Quit whining.