People used to ask me why I’m always the one at clinic with the baby. ❤️
Here’s why: Her mom is at university right now, building something bigger for our family. She’s in lecture halls, writing tests, chasing a degree. And while she’s doing that, someone has to make sure our daughter’s Road to Health booklet gets filled, that the vaccines happen on time, that she’s safe and warm.
So that someone is me.
I sit on this wooden bench with her asleep on my chest, her little pink onesie all bunched up, clinic card in my hand. I used to think fatherhood was about providing from far away. Now I know it’s about showing up close. It’s the questions I ask the nurse. It’s learning which way she likes to be held. It’s being the calm when she cries.
And here’s what I want every father reading this to hear:
Your child doesn’t need you to be rich. They don’t need you to have all the answers. They need your arms. They need you to know their clinic dates. They need you to love them without making it complicated.
While her mom studies for all of us, I get the privilege of loving her through every fever, every vaccine, every quiet moment on this bench.
Brothers, step up. Hold your babies. Learn the clinic schedule. Change the nappy. Sing off-key. Love them loudly.
#PresentFather #GirlsDad #LoveInAction
If a relationship is too peaceful, one of them is an avoidant, or both.
Avoidants love when everything is rosy, chemistry is top notch, sex is great, y’all match each others vibes so well, but immediately something happens that needs an apology or responsibility, the relationship becomes a threat to them
All of a sudden, the person is too serious, too sensitive, they don’t want any issues at all, “it’s not that deep” and eventually they discard you meanwhile you were only trying to build something real with them
So yes, it’s a red flag when it’s too peaceful, conflict is normal in relationships
@RirhandzuTee@MoloiNoks I was like speak to his mother. uthi, she blocked the guy's mom because she feels like she is not encouraging the son to marry her 🙄. Ngathi yoh the whole day