People like the temporary feeling of love and few know how to build a relationship. When the hormonal rush leaves the body, they think the relationship is doomed. Mature love is not a feeling, it's a choice to communicate and grow with another person.
What people look for in a partner:
- physical appearance
- a certain height
- a good job
- a close relationship with family
- a desire to have children
- shared personal beliefs (thought driven)
- same hobbies or interests
Deeper things to look for:
- how they react when things don't go their way
- how they treat people who can give them nothing in return
- how they navigate conflict
- shared values (behavior driven)
- *why* they want children
- if they've done inner work/healing
- the underlying dynamics they have with family
You’re not behind. It’s not too late. You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be. Everything is unfolding as it should be. Don’t judge yourself or be hard on yourself about how long something is taking to happen. Your time is coming. Just be thankful that you made it this far.