The older I get, the more I realise that someone making time for you is one of the clearest signs they care. Everyone is busy. Everyone has responsibilities and their own battles to fight. So when someone consistently chooses to spend their time with you, checks on you and makes space for you in their life, it means something. Time is the one thing we can never get back and people don't give it away lightly.
and if love ever finds me again, i hope it's with someone who thinks about how their actions affect me,someone who considers my feelings before making choices and values my peace as much as their own because I'm not here to survive love again, I'm here to finally live it
disappointment is weird because yes i want to forgive you, whole heartedly... but my mind is struggling to comprehend why would you ever think it was ok to do me like that
babe, whenever you miss him, just remember that he had a choice, and he didn’t choose you. so know your worth, because you deserve more than someone who didn’t choose you or was unsure about you.
when i'm mad from my perspective but i can also see their perspective so now i’m carrying double the emotional weight and being eaten away by my anger and empathy
Biggest lesson: stop confusing repeated behavior with confusion. People know when they're ignoring you. They know when they're being distant. They know when they're hurting you. Actions are choices. If someone keeps showing you where you stand, stop asking for a different answer.
If a relationship is too peaceful, one of them is an avoidant, or both.
Avoidants love when everything is rosy, chemistry is top notch, sex is great, y’all match each others vibes so well, but immediately something happens that needs an apology or responsibility, the relationship becomes a threat to them
All of a sudden, the person is too serious, too sensitive, they don’t want any issues at all, “it’s not that deep” and eventually they discard you meanwhile you were only trying to build something real with them
So yes, it’s a red flag when it’s too peaceful, conflict is normal in relationships
“People know exactly what they’re doing”
Until it’s you. Then suddenly, your intentions matter. Everyone wants grace for themselves, but rarely wants to extend it to others.
the disappointment i feel after being vulnerable is not rooted in the act of opening up but in the realization that sincerity is often received with far less care than it takes to offer it. there is something profoundly disorienting about exposing the most fragile parts of yourself only to discover that the person listening did not hold them with the same gravity you carried them with.
one of the hardest parts of growing up is realizing nobody is coming to tell you that you're doing okay. at some point, you have to learn how to sit with uncertainty and keep going anyway.