Reducing what goes on in a boy’s head on his birthday to fake maturity is an evidence to how insensitive the other gender can be to a boy, many times even in relationships.
For boys, a lot of expectations are attached to age
While birthday is a call for studio photoshoot for some
for many boys, new age is a reminder of the apartment of their own that they should have had
It’s a reminder that they are getting too old to be where they’re financially, academically and relationship wise etc
On a normal day a boy could just sit and start thinking of how to move forward in life, that thinking is more intense on a birthday
So if they don’t send a picture of themselves as broadcast to all contacts on WhatsApp group for a repost, it’s not a flex
They are grateful for life, but when they have something truly worth celebrating they won’t hold back
It’s not fake maturity, we are usually on a date with reality and reality is not friendly.
@Chioma__Amadi The funny thing is that the people that this concerns aren't even here. They slave away at their 9-5 jobs, then return home tired, sleep off, and repeat the next day.
No time or energy to keep up with the evolving world around them.
A lot of people in my DMs keep asking how I went from 0 to almost 60K followers in one year, and from $0 to over $15K at the same time.
I’ll tell you exactly what I did.
After I left uni, I didn’t celebrate anything. No convocation, no induction. I already knew the reality second class will get judged. Life was about to get real, and the journey ahead was long and hard.
So I went back home and made a decision to lock in.
My parents didn’t fully get it. There were complaints. But I stood my ground. I knew this was one of those moments where it’s either you take your life seriously or you keep drifting.
Even when it was time for NYSC, I didn’t go. For me, I was too broke to travel for it. it was simple. It’s either I make this work or I make this work. There was no backup plan.
I stayed with my parents because I needed shelter. And no, we weren’t comfortable. My parents hawked on the streets of Lagos. My mum sold rat poison. Things were not easy.
So I knew I had to figure something out.
I started with one question: what skill can I learn that will pay me and stay relevant long term?
I saw a lot of people going into web design, graphic design, and development. But I also saw how crowded it was and how long it could take to break through.
So I went another route.
I chose the business side of tech, sales and marketing.
A lot of people don’t understand this, but marketing is tech. You need to understand products, systems, tools, data, user behavior, and how to build flows that convert. It’s not just posting content.
Once I decided, I went all in.
In about a month, I completed multiple certifications. I wasn’t playing. I needed to enter the market fast.
Then came the hard part, getting in with no experience and no connections.
So I created my own leverage.
I started networking heavily. Talking to people. Building real conversations. I used my communication skills and diction to stand out. People liked me, not because I was the best, but because I was intentional and clear.
I even went on LinkedIn and removed people I knew from school. I didn’t want noise, judgment, or distractions. I needed full focus.
Eventually, I got my first opportunity through someone I barely knew. Not a close friend. Just a weak connection.
No experience. No strong backing. Just preparation meeting opportunity.
From there, I started working and earning. I moved into making seven figures in naira, and I kept improving.
Then I came on X.
At that time, I hadn’t even made up to $1,000 yet. I think I was around $400 to $500.
But I started documenting everything.
No fake lifestyle. No pretending. Just sharing what I was learning, what was working, and what wasn’t.
That changed everything.
I hosted over 70 to 80 Twitter Spaces in one year. In total, over 100,000 people tuned in across those sessions.
People didn’t just watch. They got results.
Some made their first million naira. Some switched careers. Some entered marketing because of what I shared.
I gave a lot back. Even when I didn’t have much, I was buying upwork connects for people, helping them get started.
At the same time, it wasn’t smooth.
I got dragged. Lmao by the tech OG's
2024 and 2025 were intense for me.
But I kept showing up.
I shared my opinions. I quoted tweets. I told stories. I stayed consistent.
That’s how I grew from 0 to almost 60K followers with no influencer recommendation.
Today, I’ve built strong networks, gotten crazy opportunities, and I even get paid to speak.
You don’t need the perfect background. You don’t need connections. You don’t need to have it all figured out.
You just need to pick a path, lock in, and stay consistent long enough for things to start working.
You can do a lot from a small place if you take yourself seriously.
I’ll go scriptural penultimately. But let me start with saying that this is just insecurity manifesting itself. A car has only one function - to take you from point A to point B.
While some cars are luxurious and show class, and people respect you for it, you can’t rely on a car for confidence. Why are you desperate to announce your appearance? Why are we obsessed with appearing valuable than actually creating values?
If you can get a car, do get one so your mobility is made easy. It is not to impress strangers. Car is for convenience. I don’t mind not having a car. If we had a good train and bus system, a car would be grossly unnecessary. So many cars on the road is a reflection of a bad transportation network.
Having said that, if you put your validation in other people’s hands, you’ll keep going back to them for it. What happens the day your car breaks down? You won’t go out again because you can’t impress strangers? This also happens on social media. You post a picture and you’re desperate for validation - did they comment on my picture? Did they like my picture? Are they fawning over me? Is my ass right? Are my breasts puffed? Are they feeling the boy? That is why when you don’t get the compliments you’re looking for, you fall into depression. Same thing happening with the car, you want to park in front and wind down in traffic so everyone can know you own the car. Do you actually do anything for your own satisfaction? If people don’t validate you, can you experience bliss?
That is why Jesus told the woman at the well in John 4, that if you drink from this water, you’ll thirst again. If you keep posting pictures for validation, you’ll thirst again for people’s validation. If you drive car only for others to validate, you’ll thirst again for their validation. Inner peace and satisfaction is not loud. There is a vacuum in life only God can fill. Stop putting your validation in other people’s hand.
Love, Peace, and Spaghetti 🍷
I hope Nigerians understand that tribalism is sponsored by the government
Look at the rich, uniting irrespective of tribe to loot public wealth yet the poor are busy fighting amongst themselves and by extension keeping these rogues in power
My 2025 wrap 🌯
- First year in tech
- Built a personal brand from zero.
- Grew my X account from 100 followers to 45,000, close to 50k.
- Became more confident in myself.
- Stepped out more than I ever have in my life.
- My direction became clearer than it has ever been.
- Made my first 8 figures.
- Earned 7 figures consistently every single month.
- Moved from 700 naira to $15k+. Use to be a beggar😭🫣
- Launched my marketing agency.
- Started paying salaries.
- Secured brand partnerships.
- Got gifts from brands.
- Worked on world class projects in the US across fintech, travel, and entertainment as an email marketing specialist.
- Hosted Wednesday virtual events every single week without missing names, Struggles in tech as a freelancer.
- Over 100,000 people tuned in across X Spaces and other platforms.
- Coached People to land their first jobs, first clients, and first millions.
- Spent 3 to 4 million naira helping people, supporting positioning, and giving back.
- Personally gave out two laptops
With @TheQueenArit, we made it four laptops given to the community.
- Started a Telegram community with 1,000+ members and 5,000 applicants
- Built an X community from 0 to 3,000+ members
Named it “Broke Ones Will Rise Again”
- Spoke at my first tech event hosted by Mastercard and Jobberman.
- Became more visible across tech and business spaces.
- Built a freelance platform, currently on hold
- 4,000+ people joined the waiting list.
- Started building my startup app.
- Added weight and lost it. Took my health seriously.
- Multiple failed talking stages.
- Went to Lekki for the first time.
- Took an Uber for the first time.
- Tried new delicacies for the first time I went to chicken Republic for the first time.
- Bought more clothes and started dressing better. Now my ex talking stage wants to talk again. Lol 😂
- Received my first Valentine’s gift.
- Made more money in one year than my parents ever did.
- Celebrated my mum and dad’s birthdays properly.
- Went for my first Rave and Concert.
- Booked an apartment for the first time.
- unlimited data access for one year.
- partnered with the federal government and cleva to teach people.
Your life can change in one year 2025>>>>>>
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@BanjoMarga21645@lasulife Hi Margaret,
It's almost impossible to switch from main campus courses to any college of medicine course from nowadays.
But there are other "better" options I can suggest