My therapist once said "growth is realizing that someone's inconsistency is a sign to step back, not a challenge to prove your worth" and i think y'all need to engrave this into your soul.
“May you have at least one person who will love you when you are not so lovable. When you’re anxious and nervous. When you mistreat others. When you no longer crack jokes and have no more stories to tell.”
— Shorouk Mostafa Ibrahim
Allah will give you someone similar to you, someone as pure as you and truly deserving. Someone who understands your soul so you don't have to spend your whole life sorting it out.
Tbh it is no big deal if i have to walk away from people i love. I've done it once and i'll do it again. Because even when I love people, i've found they can harm me tremendously. And i'm not going to sacrifice myself like a lamb and be on the receiving end of cruelty and inconsideration. I have saved myself again and again. God only knows the energy that took!
i’ll forever love people who open up about their dark past, like how did you survive all of that and end up becoming the most beautiful soul i have ever met?
Guilt of not doing enough ibadah its like you can never satisfy whatever you do. May Allah bring barakah and accept them. It was rightly said it will be Allah's mercy who will get us into jannah not our ibadah.
“The sign of [ultimate] love is that he is not able to take his eyes away from her and that whenever she is away from his sight; his heart becomes troubled and distressed until he sees her again; that is the pinnacle level of love.”
Ibn Al-Jawzi (Captured Thoughts)
Why did Allah ask Maryam (AS) to shake the palm tree?
She was in labor. Weak. In pain.
And palm trunks are solid like stone.
She couldn't possibly move it.
The fact that an entire Surah of the Qur’an was revealed because of one woman’s complaint gives me chills.
Not a king.
Not an army.
Not a scholar.
Just one woman who cried to Allah.
I apologize to all those women I thought were bitter while their husbands seemed so nice.
Now I know it is easy to be the nice one when you are not taking care of anything.
As a therapist, I want to tell you: “You loved him because love is in you. You had fun because you are fun. You felt happy because you are a happy person. You gave your all because that is who you are. You have a really beautiful way of loving, and you are going to be okay.”