Hot take: This is the moment I lost favor with Ribbit.
She told Jax something personal, then said it was her way of showing she trusted him. Then she asked if he trusted her.
That put him in an awkward, pressured position to open up before he was ready. He had already told her he was homeless, so clearly he was willing to share some things, just not everything.
The vibe is almost like someone undressing in front of you, saying, “This is me showing I trust you,” and then asking, “Do you trust me?” It creates this uncomfortable pressure for the other person to undress too, even if they weren’t ready for that kind of intimacy.
And then afterward, if they feel exposed, embarrassed, or ashamed, they might not want anyone else knowing that moment happened. Not because the intimacy meant nothing, but because they weren’t ready to be that vulnerable in the first place.
I’m not excusing Jax, but it does make it more understandable why he avoided Ribbit afterward, or why he thought she was prying to hold something over his head, just like his mother did. Just like his father did.
Not saying it’s all Ribbit’s fault, but if she wanted to share something personal with him, it shouldn’t have been used to get something personal from him in return.
When Jax asked, “What more do you need to know?” Ribbit should have left it there, or said something like, “Nothing. I trust you. That’s all you need to know.”
“Do you trust me?” creates an uncomfortable unspoken obligation for him to share something back. No wonder he freaked out afterward.
Hey everyone — I’ve been seeing a lot of really weird posts about Kyedae and me that are creating false narratives and spreading unnecessary hate — it’s really disheartening to see.
We parted on completely mutual terms, and we still care deeply about each other. It honestly hurts so much to see her being attacked when we BOTH supported each other through insanely difficult times. I also quit playing pro of my own accord and was never influenced by her to quit. People’s goals can change over time, and that is just what happened with me. In a healthy relationship, there should never be comparisons about who sacrificed more or gave more — that mindset is immature and helps nobody.
All I ask is that you please respect Kyedae as a person and respect the decision we made together. This kind of pointless “drama” is exactly why having a relationship in the public eye can be so draining.
She is also still dealing with ongoing health issues, which makes the negativity being spread even more heartbreaking and unfair.
Thank you for understanding, and once again, please respect our decision.
i found an old “to-do” list in my mom’s handwriting from 2003. item #3 was “buy a new dress for myself.” it was crossed out, and underneath she wrote, “buy school shoes for little lamb.” that's me, i’m little lamb. i looked at my shelf of medals and certificates and realized they were all paid for in dresses she never wore