being with someone isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. people leave too fast the moment they see the raw, unpolished parts of their partner
after all we are gardens shaped by everyone who tended it before. some soil is depleted. some flowers were uprooted. some corners are overgrown with weeds and neglect. or the garden could be barren
it’s not your job to blame your partner for who walked through it or shame them for the damage left behind
but if you choose to stay it becomes your privilege and your responsibility to tend the soil together, plant new seeds, and patiently grow something beautiful again
every long-term relationship will have boring or difficult moments. love isn’t just a feeling, it’s a daily commitment to care for someone emotionally, physically, and spiritually, even when it’s hard. 1/2
love isn’t about all the fancy dates and expensive gifts you see on instagram
it’s about taking care of them when they are sick, making sure they eat when they have no appetite
it’s about witnessing the other person go through life as you figure it out together, showing up for them when they are uncertain about themselves
it’s about believing in them when no one else does, even when they themselves don’t
it’s about seeing the beauty in every part of them, even the flaws. especially the flaws
it’s about seeing them at their worst and still choosing them everyday