@lunagiiselle Saturn conjunct my decedent and 7th H stellium (Sun, mercury, and venus) i discover myself through partnerships but I'm barely in partnerships. Lilth in my 11H (friendship) and libra Chiron in my 1st (identity) doesn't help.
Guilt is a debt, but shame is a prison.
Guilt says, โI made a mistake.โ Shame whispers, โI am the mistake.โ
One motivates repair, the other erodes your sense of self.
The trick is knowing when youโre punishing yourself for things youโve already atoned for.
~ 12th house
My therapist told me my ability to cut people off and self-isolate is not a skill I should be proud of - it's a trauma response rooted in never having anyone to depend on.