Narcissists/psychopaths often have what I refer to as a ‘partner henchman’.
The partner henchman is groomed by the human predator to be so supremely grateful to the human predator for opportunities they offer them and so entwined in the life of the human predator that they are compelled to support them no matter what.
This is not out of respect/consideration on behalf of the human predator, rather it is a tactic to decrease the risk of them being exposed and/or brought down.
There may be other benefits of a partner henchman such as reporting back information to the predator, selecting and grooming targets & engaging in the detail work that the predator might not want to do.
An example of a predator/partner henchman relationship might be a shy, undriven academic being pulled up on the coattails of a prolific publisher academic predator. By co-authoring, the partner henchman is locked in & and must support the human predator even where they might find out later, they are plagiarising or manipulating research for financial outcomes.
The human predator will do other things to further deepen that partner henchman sense of loyalty. For example, they may profess (lie) to be struggling with a health issue that they can only talk to the partner henchman about, they might ask favours of the partner henchman such as giving away their daughter at her wedding in the absence of a father. They may create a romantic relationship to further the bond.
The bond is like that of a creeping vine living on a tree.
Sometimes human predators choose their child as a partner henchman maybe in a family business (possibly so the child can take the fall because the predator parent is financially exploiting clients). Sometimes they choose their wife/husband as a partner henchman (possibly because they started a relationship with them when they were under age). Sometimes it might be a CEO predator choosing a CFO, treasurer or other financial specialist as a partner henchman (in business the partner henchman is often a financial specialist because the CEO is often engaged in nefarious activities they do not want exposed).
When you see 2 people that seem to present as a single force, this is a very, very strong red flag for a human predator.
This is different to the concept of “flying monkeys”. So-called flying monkeys are the people human predators manipulate to support them, who believe in their façade & are supportive of them. A partner henchman is a more intense, intertwined, deep relationship with a human predator.
Narsistin En Büyük Korkuları ve Onu Çıldırtan Şeyler
Yok sayılmak: Narsist en çok yok sayılmaktan korkar. Kaos, gürültü ve en çok da sizin açıklama yapmanızı sever; sürekli buradan beslenmeye çalışır. Ama siz sessiz ve sakince cevap verdiğinizde, onu çıldırtmaya başlarsınız. Önemsenmediğini hissettiği an çılgına döner.
Mesajlara geç dönülmesi veya dönülmemesi: Size mesaj atar, arar ve ulaşmaya çalışır. Çılgınlar gibi aramaya devam eder. Eğer ulaşamazsa kontrolü kaybettiğini düşünür ve çılgına döner. Bu yüzden her zaman anında cevap vermenizi ister.
Sizin mutlu olmanız: Narsist kesinlikle sizin mutlu olmanıza dayanamaz. Siz gülerken, eğlenirken o sorunlarla uğraşıyorsa kendini ihanete uğramış gibi hisseder ve mutluluğunuzu baltalamaya çalışır.
Onsuz tam ve güçlü olmanız: Bir diğer kudurduğu nokta ise onsuz tam olduğunuzu görmesidir. Onun kontrolü dışında kendi işinizi, sağlığınızı, geçiminizi sağlayıp güçlü durduğunuzda en büyük yıkımı yaşar. Sizi hükmedemeyeceğini ve ezemeyeceğini anladığında çılgına döner.
Onsuz tam, güçlü ve ayakta durmanız, bir narsistin asla istemediği bir durumdur.
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