People argue over who the villain is and completely miss the point. The real tragedy is that every attempt to force love destroys the very thing that makes love meaningful: choice.
Baby girl: Aunty Dolapo, when is your party?
Me(lost): What party
BG: Your end of school year party
Me: Ohhh, I don’t go to school
BG: (looks confused for a minute) Oh, you don’t go to school?
Me: Yes??
BG: Is that why you’re selling fridge and pot and kettle and…
Me: Wait, I don’t understand?
BG: I want to become a Doctor, that’s why I’m going to school, so you don’t want to become a doctor that’s why you’re selling pot abi?
Me(shouts): Noooo, I went to school too but I’m done going to school
BG: So why are you not a doctor?
Me:
there are centuries of women before me have yearned to taste the freedom i get to experience nowadays by being able to say no to marriage/children and choose my own path with full agency, and i will never take that for granted. they live through me...
My husband texted me saying he was feeling very nauseous so I told him to take a pregnancy test for a second I thought maybe I was bein insensitive but then he texted back saying “you told me you were wearing a condom ” and I’ve been laughing about it all day 😭
It’s a core part of attraction and intimacy for me. The effortless back-and-forth, the teasing without taking offence and just feeling alive in conversations with someone.
I’m very biased, of course I think women are objectively better than men in anything. Whatever it is, I promise you I know a woman that can do it better.