Job searching can absolutely mess with your mental health.
You spend hours hunting. You get excited. You apply. Silence.
Then you do it again tomorrow.
That's one reason I'm big on systems.
Automate discovery where you can. Have set search periods. Track what you've already done. Make time for networking and LIFE.
Your job search should be serious.
It should not get unlimited permission to consume every waking hour of your day.
People think moving to Canada ruins Nigerian marriages.
It honetly doesn't.
It just removes the driver, the nanny, and the aunties who acted as shock absorbers.
For the first time, you are alone in a quiet room with your spouse, and you realize you only ever liked the logistics you built together.
Alarms will be blaring in some homes because of this.
Some of you were not meant to be married honestly.
Nobody talks about the personality shift in your 30s where you no longer want to be impressive, you just want to be rested, regulated, and completely unavailable to anything that drains you
I’ve realised that a good number of you are not looking for lovers, you have a script in your head and you’re looking for an actor to come and play that role!
There is nothing like a nonchalant man. You are just not his life’s choice. You are probably for his entertainment.
A man who has seen his own, ALWAYS recognizes her and would break the boundaries of heroism for her.
You are just not good enough for him.