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Excited to officially begin my Master’s degree in Safety, Health and Environment (MSHE) at the Faculty of Public Health, Department of Environmental Health Sciences, University of Ibadan, Oyo State, Nigeria.
Justin crossed a line.
What happened between my ex-wife and me is our business. We may no longer be together, but she is the mother of my daughter.
To everyone insulting her or speaking about things they know nothing about: show some respect.
You don’t have to respect our relationship. But respecting someone’s mother should be one of the most basic codes in life.
Be better.
I wouldn’t know if AFL have plans in the future to address the waters he is stirring with his declassified podcast, but you should not as an Apostle invite people to defend their ideologies and even affirming it with them without bringing an Apostolic perspective.
You give people platforms you primarily built through your Christian identity, those same people leave your platform with more visibility and wider voice to promote their ideologies among Believers, some of which are babies in Christ still forming their doctrines and theology.
Those against the gospel are now proclaiming territorial win as they believe their ideas and perspectives about the practice of our faith is now being accepted by the body of Believers.
By the time you are ready to address the issues (as you did not do it as at the time it was raised), many are already led astray and indoctrinated into the enemy’s camp.
Having a husband is great because you always have someone to talk to. The problem is, halfway through your story, you start noticing the signs.
The occasional "hmm." The random nodding. The delayed "wow" that has absolutely nothing to do with what you just said.
One day I spent almost twenty minutes telling my husband about something that happened at work. I was fully invested. I gave background information, side characters, plot twists, and even explained why I was upset.
When I finally finished, he blinked a couple of times, looked up at me, and said, "Sorry, I think I drifted off for a second. What happened after that?"
That was when I realized this man had been physically present but spiritually unavailable.
The funny part is that I wasn't even angry. I just started laughing because now I understand why all my secrets are safe with him.
It's not loyalty. It's because he never received the information in the first place.
My take on this is that; Except your wife/babe is a talkative (which is a problem to be fixed), it is good practice to bring yourself to maintain presence of mind when they are giving you gist.
Firstly, because it helps us learn patience with them (and generally), and that in turn deepens the love.
Secondly, each gender has different seemingly little actions that holds sentimental value them. For women--and even men--listening is one of those. I think it is a good way to show your woman you love her.
Thirdly, the truth is that us men have our own ramblings that are not exactly about things women instinctively have interest in, and we would not exactly be happy to find that our partners are not listening.
Fourth: As you practice active listening, you learn things about your partner that you'd only pick in those seemingly irrelevant details---believe me on this.
Fifth: I find more and more that one core way we---both gender---inspire resentment in our partners is that we hold the mind frame that says, "Things only matter when they make sense to me". This mind frame shows in many ways. We forget that this is a whole different adult who has an active life outside of us.
In lieu of that, as men, we must learn that she is not an accessory that becomes important only when something is important to us, or would benefit us---ergo food, children, companionship, homemaking, etc. She is a full person that we should be willing to indulge and whose idiosyncrasies we must be willing to partake in. It is a sign we respect and acknowledge their personhood.
These little quirks and idiosyncrasies are the things we ignore and unknowingly cause resentment to grow--even in ways they themselves cannot explain. They would just find that resentment is happening.
By the way, this approach goes both ways and is not limited to gist. You should engage your partners interests even when that interest gives you no benefit. They are not a term paper/sheet to be resolved as quickly as possible. They have personhood outside of you. Give yourself time to accommodate, indulge and love that personhood.
---TheDaveAyo
PS: If you want to learn more patience, add following them to market. Start with once in a while, then make it a practice. Very few things stretch and engage your patience as that.
You'd get very pissed at first, but with time, you MIGHT see the good it is doing in how you grow in being patient with them. It helps you see that there are things you cannot change, so you just accept and adapt. That lesson would be transferrable to other areas in dealing with her and other women.
I’ve been in Jos for like 5 days now and I have a lot to say.
Firstly, I never knew a people could be this nice and kind and respectful.
I almost felt sick because I never knew people could still be like that.
Lagos has fried my brain. People call you Sir while offering every service to you.
From the suya guy to the super market attendant to the local restaurant to every single person.
I’ve never seen this before in my life. In Lagos, the way I know the food in a restaurant would be good is if the woman is rude.
I never trust the food of a polite food seller in Lagos.
But I’m here where everyone treats you with respect.
Then things are cheaper. The uber that will normally cost 10 million naira here in Lagos is 2,500 here.
I’ve never seen life lived like this before. I see clear road everywhere.
I’m not scared of holding my phone carelessly.
Hotel is cheap with free WiFi. Omo. Jos na place.
Men typically zone out when details become irrelevant to the subject matter.
Why exactly do I need to know the colour of the woman's shoes and the bag she just bought in order to understand how she offended you at work?
"All these things here is just for entertainment purposes. Just simple conversations."
- Apostle Femi Lazarus
I think that explains it all.
Just that sometimes, certain entertainment are counterproductive to the faith and should not be peddled by Apostles. You don't want to raise skeptics among the sheep you're feeding other things for "salvation purposes."
The countdown is over. The waiting is done. Today, the International Eagles Conference 2026 — Prophets and Prophecies, opens its doors at RCN Embassy, Makurdi, and the word of the Lord begins to go forth.