Perhaps this year isn't about becoming anything at all. Maybe instead, it's about slowly unbecoming all the things which no longer align with you, and finding peace in the quiet return to your authentic self.
No. Just stopped people pleasing and have firmer boundaries and maybe some people might interpret that as mean. Especially those who benefitted from my lack of boundaries.
normalize leaving people to avoid empathy burnout. yes, i love you, but i am tired of having to ask you to consider me, and i am tired of you not seeing where you went wrong.