Agency to me is a product of self trust.
Many of us are so broken we use our kids as a tool to heal our brokenness when they are young. We praise them when they treat us well and punish when they don’t.
We try and force them to learn obedience, discipline and to trust us. So we feel good about ourselves.
I’ve told my kids I’m human, I’m imperfect, I’ve seen a lot, learned a lot, but I’ve never lived your life.
So I’m here to support you to know and learn who you are in this world and to trust yourself.
If they trust themselves agency will be abundant!
Yeah I had him on a podcast I produced and what stood out to me, is not only does a man need a quest, but the feminine is drawn to a man… not who says… grab a horse and let me know where you want to go I’ll help you get there, but rather, hop up here on my horse, I’ve got a place I’d love to show you.
18 your just beginning, these early years are often about dreaming.
Now ask, what’s one thing I’d like to have, one thing I’d like people to say about me (not to impress, but because In your core you believe you really are… brave, focused, loving, creative etc.) or one accomplishment for me that would feel amazing. (Lose weight, gain muscle, travel somewhere that seems impossible, create music)
Then ask who would I be if I was the man who accomplished these things? Find men who are those things and adopt 1 simple habit and commit to it for 7 days, once you get 7 then shoot for 7 more.
Don’t shame yourself for where you are now. Life’s long almost every man on here has probably watched porn, resistance creates persistence, so acknowledge to like the naked body, and move forward with love for not being asexual.
And ask who am I as someone who appreciates my sexuality and respects and loves using it for good.
Don’t judge yourself to hard when your young. I’ve made millions, lost millions, and am rebuilding again becareful at defining yourself by any one moment.
Instead define the quest of who you are becoming and enjoy the journey of becoming that.
I have often repeated this, and then someone said…
but aren’t you really already uncomfortable, do you like the house you live in, the marriage you’re in, the car you drive, the relationship with your self.
Some of those I had to answer “no” to at the time
As powerful as being uncomfortable is most people already are often uncomfortable they just aren’t honest about it.
I’m curious on your thoughts of replacing uncomfortable with the unfamiliar.
For me I’ve found that it is getting into the unfamiliar that unlocks a new way of living.
A friend just asked me for a referral and one guy stood out above the rest.
I thought about it and realized it wasn’t just because he did the job, there was something else that had me refer what had been probably 3 people in the last year. What did he do different? I think it’s 3 things.
1) Every time I talk to this guy, which sometimes it’s been years.
I feel like we are best friends, he cares
2) and he makes me laugh.
3) He also brings consistent and real value.
Simple but great lesson if I want more referrals.
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