@t0nit0ne@is_salsu Most people have never been taught how to ask properly.
So we do it badly, sometimes using guilt, coercion and blackmail. We solicit pity when we want assistance, or we ask the wrong person. We might have felt humiliated doing it in the past, so we fear doing it in the future.
You never change things by fighting the existing reality.
To change something, simply build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete. It's simple.