@JayK_AND I feel this in my bones. I barely believe there's anyone for me, and I deeply believe that I'm just not going to meet her, and if I do, I'm going to fumble it, and that will have been my only chance.
@FilmsReplica@MrOvis_ I don't think it's about lust, it's about having a companion for life when it sucks, which for a lot of people is literally always. What more important things are there than having somebody to give yourself to and be received by?
@melanie12122007@colenoxrage If OP is a man, that's just a moment of vulnerability. That said, it definitely should have improved their bond, and it sounds like it didn't. So I wouldn't call that an "emergency", but it's still OP's fault for not at least checking in more.
@melanie12122007@colenoxrage It doesn't say "his whole social life", it says "he didn't go out as much". I've put less effort into my own social life, but I still go out for board games with friends every two weeks, and I still play video games with my brother. If he still showed up, people don't notice.
@melanie12122007@colenoxrage And I know my family and friends care for me, but there's too much life for them to be staring at me, piecing together a puzzle trying figure out, "Is he gonna randomly DECIDE to disappear from my life?" I don't expect them to. I don't WANT them to. That's a personal Hell.
@melanie12122007@colenoxrage Fair, but unless you're a catastrophic thinker, you don't think, "This man's about to kill himself" because you don't spend every waking moment scanning for death. I tried to kill myself three times last year and I guarantee you nobody has any idea except the people I told after.
@kiwinottthebird@colenoxrage I think this is a terrible way to view it. Yes, depression likely would have even soured a relationship, but calling it an excuse completely misses the point of depression. This was one thing he felt strongly about, not the only thing.